We rush to treat any wound on the body with antiseptics, apply cold to the bruise, trying in every possible way to ease our pain. But what if the pain is not physical, but mental? It’s no secret that this pain exceeds physical pain. Unfortunately, the degree of mental suffering cannot be measured with modern instruments and cured with new-fangled medications, but traces of mental wounds can be deeper and more extensive than physical ones. For this reason, if it seems to a person that nothing good is in store for him and his life is ruined, it is better not to postpone a visit to a specialist - a psychologist or psychotherapist.
Of course, the more complex the problem for the individual himself, the longer it will take to heal the mental wound. Neglected mental wounds sometimes take the rest of your life to heal. Experts believe that the time required for a complete healing of the soul is equal to half the time that people spent together (for example, after breaking up).
Most mental suffering is associated with unhappy love, bad memories from childhood and the loss of a loved one. Other events, as a rule, leave small “scratches” on the soul: complexes, fear, resentment, etc. For example, if one person seriously offended another, then subsequently their communication will stop, and the victim will feel normal.
But there are situations when it is extremely difficult for a person to forget some tragedy that happened to him some time ago. Pain is present in his soul every day, thereby interfering with his full life. Such a condition cannot be eliminated on its own, without the intervention of a “doctor of the soul” - a psychologist. But sometimes you can still heal mental pain or calm it down yourself. How to get rid of mental pain? To do this, there are a number of simple techniques that help relieve psychological trauma.
Let's look at them in more detail:
1. Try to shift attention from yourself to the people around you. For example, you can begin to actively care about someone close - these could be relatives, orphans, homeless animals, etc.
2. Physical activity. Sports, repairs, active recreation - the main thing is to have more movement! Remember, a sedentary lifestyle is not best for you. Appropriate music and physical activity will help improve your mood and put your thoughts in order.
3. Professional massage course. Mental pain makes us lower our hands, squeeze our chests, and settles in our thoughts. Massage has a beneficial effect on the body - it relaxes, thoughts are abstracted, and this makes the soul feel lighter.
4. Write down everything you feel. It's no secret that writing about emotional suffering can help a person rethink the situation and more effectively overcome stress. During writing, most parts of the brain are involved, as a result of which the task is solved faster.
5. Give positivity. Even if you feel bad, do not refuse the opportunity to smile or give a compliment to a loved one. The joy that you bring to a person will certainly multiply in your favor several times.
6. Master breathing exercises. Modern breathing techniques will teach you how to properly relax in difficult life situations.
7. Get a good night's sleep. During times of stress (especially during sleep), our subconscious mind actively functions, with the help of which we can find a way out of any situation.
You can help yourself with these techniques get rid of heartache without resorting to the help of a specialist. Of course, I would like for each of us to have fewer moments in our lives that push us out of our usual life rut. However, if such a misfortune has touched you, remember - in any case, a new day is coming, which can bring something new and bright into your life, because a person is born for happiness!
To this day, the knowledge of how the sacred union of the soul and the physical body occurs in the mother’s womb is incomprehensible to man.
According to esoteric sources, the soul, during its incarnation in the physical human body, is in a closed state and is forced to temporarily remain inactive. She can only helplessly observe the good and not entirely good deeds of the individual.
Of course, she is trying to tell the sovereign consciousness about the karmic problems of the body, future troubles, and illnesses. But often her attempts are completely unsuccessful. Then she resorts to the last and only way to attract attention to herself - severe pain.
Man fears this universal language of pain. However Esoteric knowledge tells us that mental pain is a clever trick of Great Nature. Thanks to this means, any person on Earth, regardless of mental abilities, is forced to observe the law of self-preservation.
Let's pay attention to five tips on how to cure mental pain.
Finding out the cause of mental pain
It is necessary to relate to mental pain only from the position of a positive attitude of consciousness. You need to force yourself to understand that pain is not a curse, but a warning for the good of a woman. Despite the very strong painful sensations, you need to make a great effort of will and force yourself to think rationally and critically. A cool, positive mind must find the seeds of future benefit. Once the cause of the pain is determined, its severity quickly passes.Pain modeling.
Strong experiences and stress form a certain clot of energy, which over time goes deep into the person. It is possible that this energy is intercepted by the soul. Through an effort of will it is necessary to force this clot to the surface. This can be done using a drawing. It is impossible to model pain, but if you draw it and distance it from yourself, then the drawn pain can be studied and treated. (Read)Exercise.
The sages say that pain in movement “hurts” less. To use this advice, you should take a drawing of your own pain with you to the gym, pool, or jogging. It won’t work right away, because the physical body doesn’t listen well. It is necessary to apply willpower, then it will be much easier to cure mental pain.What time of day does heartache like?
You need to ask your inner self about this. At our sick soul’s favorite time of day, we need to light candles and peacefully talk to her. In this case, it is advisable to sketch the images that appear in the mind. You should not control your hands, let them draw what the pain commands. It is better to analyze the drawings some time later. (Read)Prayer.
Mental pain is selective. She has many means: disappointment, suffering, sadness, oppression. However, the wise female mind must use these means for good and achieve greatness. Otherwise, women's suffering becomes a stumbling block, and a woman can no longer rise to a new level of her ascent. (Read also)A woman should strengthen her life plateau with prayer:
I don’t ask or beg to save me from pain and suffering, but I ask you to give me the wisdom of understanding how I can turn pain into grains of good deeds that are useful for the people around me.
I ask you to strengthen me on this path and save me from vanity and despair.
Please make me aware of the actions of people who are trying to hurt me. They will have the privilege of regretting it later.
Thank you for the tests, thank you for your help in passing them.
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Mental pain is emotional suffering that is unpleasant and painful in its sensations for a person. Mental pain is also referred to as pain of the mental body and is considered a loss of survival potential. It is often much more dangerous than physical illnesses, since it causes disturbances in the functioning of all internal organs and provokes malfunctions throughout the body.
How to cope with mental pain?
Emotional distress occurs when you worry about a life event or worry greatly about a loved one. Mental pain is often inherent in a person when his personal ideas do not coincide with what is happening in reality. This is because significant experiences leading to , occur due to patterns formed in the human brain, and reality appears not to be what the individual expects it to be. All these disappointments lead to emotional suffering.
A person can experience mental pain both openly and hidden, when a person suffers, but does not admit it to himself.
How to cope with mental pain? A person copes with mental pain in several ways. In one case, mental pain moves from the conscious sensation to the subconscious and the individual mistakenly believes that he is no longer suffering. What actually happens is that a person simply avoids pain and transfers it to the subconscious.
If an individual is inclined to demonstrate his actions and feelings, then this means that he is giving vent to his mental pain. In such cases, a person begins to consult with friends and acquaintances, looking for salvation in eliminating the root of the problem.
For example, if emotional pain is caused by relationships with parents, then a person looks for all possible ways to find a common language with them.
If a person has chosen the method of avoidance, then this method is expressed in not recognizing the problem; often the individual says that everything is fine with him and does not even admit to himself personal experiences. In this case, mental pain persists, passing into an implicit, subconscious form. This condition is very difficult to cope with, it is painful for a person, much more painful than open recognition, as well as speaking the problem out loud.
How to get rid of mental pain
It is very difficult to get rid of hidden pain; it is characterized by a protracted course (for years!). At the same time, a person’s character and relationships with others change. A person with mental pain begins to attract negative people to himself, gradually changing the level of acquaintances, or completely abandons them, forever excluding communication with people.
Often, emotional suffering does not allow an individual to create or work; it torments him, and the person often does not understand what is happening to him. Certain situations can remind a person of those moments that caused pain in his soul many years ago. This is explained by the fact that emotions were driven into the subconscious many years ago, so a person cries and worries without fully understanding what is happening to him, for example, after watching a emotional scene from a film. In cases where you cannot cope with mental pain on your own, you need the help of a specialist or a loved one who is ready to listen to you.
Heartache after a breakup
Psychological reactions to a break in a relationship with a loved one have much in common with the reaction to a physical loss, namely, the death of a loved one. Mental pain after breaking up with a loved one can drag on for many months and years. During this period, a person is acutely worried. The experience includes stages of resentment, denial and pain.
Initially, a stage of denial arises, which manifests itself in a person’s subconscious refusal to take an objective view of the breakup and be aware of the end of the relationship.
The mental pain after a breakup is intensified by the understanding that the person you love is no longer there and will never be around again. The moment a person realizes and accepts reality, he will stop suffering. This understanding does not come overnight. The duration of this period depends on the continuation of contacts with the former lover. To get through this stage of mental suffering easier and faster, psychologists advise giving up all contacts, as well as getting rid of all objects reminiscent of past relationships.
The period of denial is replaced by a period of indignation, which is characterized by accusations of the former lover of all sins and the desire of the offended person to take revenge, especially if the cause of the breakup was treason.
Psychologically, this is understandable: blaming another person is much easier than admitting part of your guilt in such a situation. This stage is marked by the emergence of an emotional block: a fixation on negative experiences occurs, which significantly delays the period of psychological recovery. At the next stage of the life crisis, worries about lost time in relationships that were in vain develop. Such experiences are accompanied by the fear of loneliness, as well as the uncertainty of the future, the fear that it will not be possible to build new relationships.
Most psychologists are inclined to believe that tears, suffering and reflection in solitude are an obligatory and also necessary part in overcoming this life crisis. There is nothing wrong with wanting to cry. Allow yourself to suffer and cry - this will bring relief and lead to recovery.
If, nevertheless, a decision was made to break up, then you should not restore the lost relationship, and for this reason, give in to sad memories, call, and also meet. This will only slow down and make it more difficult to overcome emotional suffering.
Women often need more time than men to forget about their ex-partner, since for women, love for a man is the most important part of life. For a man, the priority in life is often work and career. In addition, it is usually easier for men to find a new partner.
Psychologists advise, if left alone, to do something. If, nevertheless, mental pain after separation bothers you for two years, then you need to consult a psychologist or psychotherapist who will help in solving this problem.
Severe mental pain
Edwin Shneidman, an American psychologist, gave the following unique definition of mental pain. It is not like physical or bodily pain. Mental pain manifests itself in experiences that are often caused by the grieving person himself.
Mental pain, filled with suffering, is an expression of the loss of meaning in life. It is marked by torment, melancholy, confusion. This state is generated by loneliness, grief, guilt, humiliation, shame, in the face of inevitability - aging, death, physical illness.
Eliminating the cause of suffering helps to get rid of severe mental pain. If the cause of emotional suffering is a person’s negative behavior towards you, then in this case it is necessary to eliminate these causes, and not extinguish your emotions towards this person. For example, if you have troubles with your boss that provoked mental pain, then you should work on your relationship with him, and not on your emotions and how you feel about it. You should find a common language or quit.
If emotional suffering is caused by an irreparable situation (illness or death), then you should work on your perception of reality and your emotions.
Mental pain lasts from six months to a year when losing a loved one. Only after this period of time do psychologists advise building new relationships in order not to repeat previous mistakes.
How to relieve mental pain? You need to admit to yourself that an unpleasant situation has already happened. This can alleviate your condition.
Second, go through a period of pain and come to your senses. Next, we build a new future, but without these circumstances or this person. For example, without your favorite job or loved one. Mentally build everything in detail about how you will live in the future. Often, a person’s real world becomes the way he sees it in his imagination.
Often, severe mental pain is hidden under other masks and is confused with anger, disappointment, and resentment.
How to survive severe mental pain? Find people who are much worse off than you. Show them concern. This way you will switch your mind from your problem.
Master the correct breathing system: with a long inhalation and a short exhalation. Proper breathing can help your body's cells recover quickly and strengthen your nervous system.
Say something nice to people every day, positive emotions will also be transmitted to you.
Follow a daily routine, get enough sleep, this will help restore nerve cells.
Take your mind off your worries by dancing, jogging, walking, push-ups, and physical exercise. Book a massage.
Avoid the return of severe mental anguish. Scientists are inclined to believe that a person remains in a state of depression for a quarter of an hour, and the rest of the time he creates mental suffering for himself, prolonging and aggravating it. Therefore, the ability not to return mental pain again, which is facilitated by situations from the past that provoked experiences, is of great importance. 
Hello, Alexandra. There is no need to blame yourself for what happened. Take it as an experience. Often, young girl friends practice kissing with each other (for future relationships with the opposite sex).
Hello Alexandra, if a girl kissed you, this does not mean that you automatically turned into the same as her. What happened to you is called temptation. In this or another area, it is inherent in people, as a sad result of the Fall of man. You need to go to church, don’t be shy about going to confession. Look around the temple and find a priest who would suit you, at least by his appearance. Say don’t be afraid of what your conscience reproaches you for. The result will be, believe me. After that, move on with your life and don’t look back, you shouldn’t have anything to do with it. Meet a guy, have a family, kids). Best wishes to you.
I am 22 years old. I study in Yekaterinburg, I’m from out of town. Closer to the beginning of the new school year, it turned out that I was not given a place in the dormitory. There is nowhere to live, I need to study. A friend helped me out and offered to live in his one-room apartment. I agreed because I had no other choice. The first couple of weeks everything went fine, but then I realized that I liked my neighbor (although I already knew this), and later it turned into a severe form of falling in love. One-sided feelings tear me apart from the inside. I told my friend about my feelings, but this did not change anything except the creation of tension between us. I was trapped. I can’t move out and try to be away from him, because in that case I’ll just end up on the street, and at the same time I can’t overcome the feelings of being close to him. I just can’t imagine what to do with this. Maybe you can help me, please?
Hello linaria. We recommend that you do not fight your feelings within yourself; if you resist them, your soul will only become worse. Try to switch to other guys, even if you don't feel like it. In front of a guy, don’t bring up the topic of feelings anymore and he will eventually decide that you have calmed down. Tension has arisen between you because the guy cannot reciprocate your feelings. Continue to live in his apartment and focus on your studies (session is coming soon).
Hello. I have this situation. I had a relationship with a man for 12 years. She loved me deeply, but he turned out to be a coward and doesn’t want to admit it. When our relationship began to deteriorate, he began to demand all the gifts back, taking everything down to his underwear. Although he had no fewer gifts and equal ones. Insults began to pour in. Time has passed, but I have such an emptiness inside that no matter what I fill it with, I still return to the starting point. Neither travel, nor friends, nor hobbies help. He is standing before my eyes. And complete confusion, how could he do this?
Hello, Albina. We recommend that you switch to other men and stop worrying about unsuccessful past relationships. “He is standing before my eyes. And complete confusion as to how he could do this.” He did what he usually does. It’s just that such qualities in your character are not acceptable. You and your ex are different, so you shouldn’t feel sorry for him.
Hello, I would appreciate your help. My husband and I have been living together for 3 years. At the time of our meeting, he was married, but divorced to be with me. He is the best person in the world towards me, I didn’t think it was possible to love like that. And I, too, love him endlessly, but then one day he declares that he is disappointed in me, almost stopped loving me, does not want to live with me, but he immediately said that he is not persecuting me, he lives with me out of pity. My husband is very wealthy, he supports me completely, and when I asked what we will do now, he said so and we will continue to live and the horror began. Yes, we live together, he also provides for me, we sleep in the same bed, but there is no intimate relationship, we don’t talk, only about everyday issues, although it happens that he himself talks and laughs and seems to thaw out. He didn’t answer my question about the reason for the disappointment. I'm just quietly going crazy. I love him, he is the most precious thing in my life. What to do? How to improve relationships? He has a child and I have one from a pre-marriage. He treated my child wonderfully, sincerely, and then he said that he didn’t want me to bring my daughter, because he only sees his own on weekends. The child is with his grandmother and thank God that she does not see this nightmare. The situation has been dragging on for 2 months now, we have been living like this. Help! How to save a family? All my attempts to improve relationships are like a wall. He said he didn't want anything. This has never happened before. He says that he doesn’t want anything, that it is better to die, but many people will suffer. God, I'm just going crazy. Tell me, can a man live out of pity? In my opinion this is simply absurd. And this lasts a month. And I don’t know how long it will last. I will endure anything, as long as he thaws out.
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Hello Natalia, the fact that he met you and got divorced does not allow him to live in peace. You must understand that at the beginning of your relationship there was passion, and mutual on both sides. Time passed, the man realized what he had done, because the family had collapsed. Perhaps he loved or still loves his family very much, so he feels a sense of regret. Are you scheduled with him, or just live in the place? Let him go, this is the only chance to make amends for your family and his.
Hello Olesya, the fact that your husband has such a health problem is, of course, an unpleasant situation. Maybe you should try taking the baby from an orphanage or orphanage. How many children are left without parental love. Find the strength with your husband to take and give at least one of them your love, support and protection. It is clear that this is a very important step, but if you don’t try, you will reproach yourself all your life for the fact that there was at least a small chance to experience maternal happiness, but you did not use it. You need to try to explain to your husband that life is not eternal, he will grow old over time, his strength will leave him, and in his old age there will be no one to take care of him or give him a glass of water.
Olesya, if you are a believer, at least a little, come to church, sincerely pray from a pure heart to God that He will help you in your difficult task, and He will really help you and your mental pain will go back to where it came from.
I sincerely wish you to get rid of your mental burden and feel that unique lightness of life to which we are called by God.
I'm in my second marriage. When I got married, I was happy and was expecting a long-awaited pregnancy, but the pregnancy never came... We lived together for 7 years. My husband has infertility, the chance of IVF is 20%. He categorically does not want a donor child. I'm all exhausted, I really want a baby. (he also wants to, but he probably understands that it won’t work out and somehow resigned himself, but I can’t) I’m 37, in a couple of months I’ll be 38 - that’s already the limit, but I still haven’t given birth. She began to treat her husband worse, began to eat herself, that she had made the wrong choice and him, in turn, that he hid his infertility from me and constantly entertained hopes that he would soon undergo treatment and we would get pregnant.
I can’t live with this... I’m tired. I'm afraid of breaking things. I can’t forgive him and be left without the baby I want. How to be!? Mental pain drowns out consciousness and interferes with life.
Hello, Olesya. The situation is complicated. Your desire to have a child is understandable. While there is still time, it is necessary to think about how this problem can still be solved. It makes sense to go with your husband to a family psychologist, so that the specialist can help you and your husband understand the problem (so that your husband finds out how important it is for you to have a child, that you are unhappy in your relationship due to the lack of opportunity to realize yourself in motherhood) and help in making the right decision.
I’m 35, when I was a child (about 5 years old) older boys made me do something that I can’t say out loud to this day. The parents found out, but chose not to make a fuss. Then there is substance abuse, psychotropics, criminal records, sentences. When sent to the hospital, the diagnosis was F 18-26. For a long time I was sure that I was communicating with aliens in my head.
When passing the commission at the military registration and enlistment office they gave a certificate: Limited legal capacity. 117 B. I consider myself a mental cripple. Mental pain sometimes leads to bouts of dull crying and resentment. And there is no one to tell and discuss with. I can't do this anymore. Help!
Look, it's really sad what happened to you. It's a pity that there is no one to help you. Obviously, you can’t tell everyone about this. You turn to God, tell Him everything, all your pain, see how you feel better. Just lock yourself in your room and talk. It’s even better to go to a church in your city, preferably an evangelical one, and talk to the minister or pastor. They will pray with you. Many have been healed and freed this way. Good luck to you!
God doesn’t help anyone, why are you fooling a person’s brains, do you have a conscience?
Hello Sergey, did you confirm this from your own experience, or did someone tell you?
Hello Artemy, if you still want to chat, write to lukanovmg(dog)mail.ru
Hello! I am 29 years old. I went through a breakup with my boyfriend. We dated for 6 years, things were heading towards marriage, but the guy began to experience endogenous depression. After six months of torment and fruitless attempts to help, I ended the relationship. Six months later there was a new short-term and unsuccessful relationship, where they left me. Now another six months have passed and I have more or less accepted and gotten over the past, but I am tormented by the severe pain of loneliness. In general, she has been tormenting me since the first breakup. At first, I had a fixed idea, to find compensatory relationships, which led to a disastrous result. Now I am delving deeper into self-contemplation and self-development with varying degrees of success. I can work productively, but I understand that I can’t do anything about the pain of loneliness. I can distract myself, but from time to time I fall into despair. It's rare to be happy. Self-doubt and distrust of people appeared + fear that I would never be able to meet my person. A calm state gives way to panic and it is impossible to control this process. Relationships have always been in the first place for me and I just can’t learn to appreciate what I have and enjoy an independent life. I would be grateful for any tips. Thank you!
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Thank you. In difficult times, such words are very helpful. The links are very useful, I saved them, I will re-read them in moments of crisis)
Hello Evgeniya. Read the book “Five Masks, Five Traumas” by Liz Burbo.
The factor in the occurrence of mental pain and the ease of overcoming it does not depend on gender, and in this case, it is wrong to treat the situation stereotypically. Each person is unique and each has their own pain threshold. No psychologist will give an exact recipe if he approaches situations that occur in people in a stereotyped manner. Yes, they are similar in many ways, but the manifestations and perception of the situation are individual for everyone. I will speak for myself, I was unable to get rid of mental pain and I am forced to somehow live with it. At times, there comes a period of returning memories, which gives off pain on the physical level, quite noticeably. It’s easy to understand the situation, find the reason too, it’s impossible to forgive a person if you’re not to blame for anything, and he blames you for everything, although it’s entirely his fault. Of course, you can do something else, some other distracting things, without enthusiasm, but this does not save you. Thoughts and memories always return.
This was probably not your man, so take comfort in that. I have a similar situation, we broke up after 2 years of a whirlwind romance, mostly at a distance, he blames me for something that didn’t happen, and I’m offended that he thinks that way about me and I can’t prove it with anything. And is it necessary? For the second month after separation, I experience such melancholy and suffering, it seems like it will never end. But I console myself with the fact that it was still not my person. Those who truly love do not act like this. You need more communication, I think so, this saves me, even all sorts of comments, communication on social networks. And you need to learn to control your thoughts, not go deeper into them and drive them away, try it. It’s even better to get acquainted if a lot of time has passed since the breakup. Don't get hung up. Forgive and let go. Read other recommendations, for example, I found 6 steps after a breakup on Google. Good luck to you! I hope this helped at least a little :)
Thank you Larisa. Only in my case it is impossible to forget. You can hate, but this will not make the pain go away, quite the contrary. I am forced to see my daughter at my ex’s place; they didn’t give her to me and this makes the pain even worse. I tried new relationships. It all comes down to the fact that there is no longer trust, and the relationship is falling apart according to my wishes. I'm just living.. Come what may.
Hello, Galina. It makes sense to seek an explanation from a man if he has made a final decision for himself. Now you need to think about how to cope with this situation and recover mentally as quickly as possible. You need to realize and accept his decision, mentally thank the Universe for those wonderful days that you were together and let him go. After all, all this might not have happened. Remember what Mark Twain wrote: “Only two things will we regret on our deathbed—that we loved little and that we traveled little.” When you free yourself from these relationships, your heart will be free and desire new relationships, you will definitely attract them with your desire.
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I am 54 years old. All my life I have been dreaming of love. But even in my youth I could never talk to guys, much less date them - as if it were shameful for me. And as if it would make people smile. I married a man from a dating service at the age of 28. But he turned out to be a drinker, and a year later I left him because it was unbearable. She gave birth and raised a son. And I still can’t meet, fall in love - the reason is the same. I have never experienced a man's love for me. If sometimes one of the men says something good to me, I am sure that he is pretending or mocking me. Loneliness has been causing depression for 10-15 years now, I didn’t realize it right away, I just wasn’t in the mood, I didn’t want anything, I didn’t want to see anyone, etc. Now depression makes itself felt through long bouts of melancholy and anxiety. I can't feel joy. There is no feeling of pleasure. It's like there's no strength. Four years ago I took rexetine and something else for sleep. I couldn’t sleep for two days and didn’t even yawn. Then she fell, 2 operations on her knee, then my mother died. Life became completely bleak. I turned to psychologists, but the depression does not go away. I don't know how to deal with this. What should I do, tell me?
Irina, I want to recommend you THE MOST WONDERFUL DIARIES!!! Re-read John of Kronstadt!!! (there was such a person, he was canonized!) Believe me. I live with severe mental pain. The strongest!!! And I am learning to ENJOY HER! Believe me. His diaries will make you brighter. Thank you for your attention.
Heartache
03.08.2018Pozharisky I.
Heartache is familiar to many people. Its occurrence, as a rule, is associated with the development of unpleasant events that destroy a person’s habitual worldview, devastate [...]
Heartache is familiar to many people. Its occurrence, as a rule, is associated with the development of unpleasant events that destroy a person’s habitual worldview and devastate his internal resource. During this period, nothing is nice, familiar things irritate you, you don’t want to talk to anyone. Often this condition is caused by separation from a loved one. From numerous experiences, the nervous system simply cannot stand it: attacks of aggression begin, the voice trembles, in some cases, fear haunts and obsessive states appear. All unpleasant symptoms are quite understandable, so you should not be afraid of them.
Causes of mental pain
Nothing in the world just happens. In order for mental pain to manifest itself, there must be compelling reasons. Each person reacts to certain stimuli, to what is most significant specifically for him. Let's take a closer look at what factors cause disruptions in the functioning of the nervous system.
Disappointments in love
Heartache from love happens incredibly often. Falling in love with a certain person, we can never guess what a new acquaintance will result in, what it will lead to. Even if at first an individual made a pleasant impression on us, this does not mean that this will continue. People make mistakes, commit rash acts, offend each other. Experiencing another disappointment in love, a person often feels depressed, unwanted and lonely.
Job loss
Unfortunately, the economic situation in the country and abroad cannot be called stable. Losing a job can even lead to depression if a person does not receive moral and financial support from friends and acquaintances in time. For almost all people, one of the most terrible events is the prospect of losing money. Many people immediately begin to imagine the terrible consequences of such changes, and, above all, they relate to external prosperous life. Losing an influential position makes you feel humiliated, trampled and uninteresting. Even if great potential is hidden within a person, but there is no opportunity to somehow demonstrate it, the person will feel useless and is unlikely to quickly recover from the shock.
Losing a loved one
Sometimes completely unforeseen events happen in life: the departure of a loved one due to divorce or death. In this case, the mental pain becomes simply colossal and it is not so easy to get rid of it. In most cases, people try to remain strong and not reveal their feelings to others. This is not very helpful because true emotions are not expressed, but are suppressed under the weight of fear or shame. Losing a loved one is always very painful. It seems that the world has ceased to exist; the brain refuses to accept terrifying information for a long time.
Manifestation of mental pain
It is quite easy to recognize it. Any person who suffers cannot help but notice it. Sometimes we very successfully disguise ourselves in front of others, but it is hardly possible to deceive ourselves. When thinking about how to cope with any shock, you should remain extremely honest with yourself.
Reluctance to leave home
After severe stress, sometimes you want to hide in some dark corner and not show any signs of your existence at all. The reluctance to leave the house is dictated by the fact that the individual does not expect anything good from the world around him. The greater the stress experienced, the longer it may take to recover. Some individuals give in to their desires and literally do not show their noses in the street. Sometimes additional help is not required, but this is only if the individual does not have a tendency to escape reality.
Feelings of despair and longing
We all tend to be disappointed in what has caused us mental discomfort or simply frightened us. For example, after breaking up with a loved one, a feeling of catastrophic hopelessness may appear. It feels like life is ending and you will never feel better. In fact, everything is not like that. It just takes some extra time before that understanding comes to mind. Feelings of sadness and despair are natural. Sometimes negative emotions are so overwhelming that you literally want to scream from injustice. During this period, both men and women are extremely susceptible to the destructive effects of depression. Many people start using alcohol and drugs in order to somehow free themselves from mental constraint.
Nervous effects
A person who has suffered some kind of shock sometimes discovers a characteristic rash on his body, various fears or disturbing thoughts. All these manifestations indicate that the situation has not been understood and worked through. Often the individual does not understand at all what is happening to him and tries with all his might to overcome the unpleasant symptoms. Nervous consequences occur not only in advanced cases. Sometimes they accompany people through life who are too impressionable and who do not know how to work on themselves. Their mental state can either deteriorate or improve again without additional external influences. Each person experiences grief, loss, or any other shock differently. Unfortunately, not everyone has the strength not to give up and go to the end.
How to get rid of mental pain
Severe mental pain needs correction. You cannot let the situation take its course and hope that everything will go away on its own, without any effort on your part. Taking into account the irreversible consequences of the psyche and various disorders, it is necessary to choose the right methods of influence and not neglect contacting a specialist. How to get rid with a feeling of hopelessness and despair? Let's take a closer look.
Opportunity to speak out
It definitely has to be there. If you don’t have a person you can trust unconditionally, then you need to try to find him. The opportunity to speak out gives a lot: it relaxes the psyche, allows you to stop being ashamed of your problem. Sometimes it is enough to consult with a friend to make it easier. After all, if we keep everything to ourselves, it becomes generally difficult to manage our lives. It is the nervous system that is subjected to great stress. A girl’s mental pain often goes away after a nice friendly meeting, which is full of sincerity and mutual respect. There is no need to try your best to hide your feelings just so as not to seem like a weak and weak-willed person to others. Firstly, people often don’t even think of judging you for anything. Secondly, everyone at a certain time needs support and wants to be understood.
Relaxation practice
It works very well if you do the exercises regularly, without allowing yourself to shirk. You can choose suitable melodies for yourself that will inspire new victories. It is very useful to use breathing practices. It is very important to be able to relax your body and thoughts. Then any stress will bypass you and will not cause inconvenience. The great thing about relaxation practice is that you can devote as much time to it as you can spare. You can study every day, if time allows, but know that you will definitely grow over your own problem. You can't be strong all the time, you need to be able to relax.
Taking responsibility
This must be done mentally before taking the main steps to restore peace of mind. It must be remembered that the final result depends only on you. If you want to change yourself, everything will work out. Accepting responsibility implies that a person will give up the idea of blaming other people for his own failures. People around you sometimes have no idea what exactly you are experiencing. You cannot blame your relatives just because they do not listen to you well enough and do not perceive your words. You should not become a narcissistic egoist to whom everyone around you is beholden.
Working with a specialist
If you don’t know how to relieve mental pain, and it continues for a long time, do not hesitate to ask for help. Today, working with a psychologist is very valuable. That is why more and more people prefer not to remain silent about their problems, but to speak out in time. You should not think that only those who are morally weak seek the advice of competent experts; in fact, this is not the case. A person may need participation and support at any time. There is no need to limit yourself if you feel you need help. This is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. The main difficulty is how to find a good, decent psychologist. After all, a lot in life will depend on the result obtained.
Thus, the mental pain caused is not a reason to become limp and stop believing in people. Believe me, troubles happen to everyone. The only difference is that some people are ready to fight their inner state, while others plunge into the world of sadness and remain there for a long time. If you don’t know how to solve a problem that worries you, feel free to seek advice from psychologist Irakli Pozharisky. Together with a professional, you will come to an understanding of what is really happening to you and outline ways out of the impasse.
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