Wise wife or what to do
What is better to remember and what a wife should be like. What you need to do at least occasionally or how to maintain a relationship with your loved one.
Prologue: When my husband asked me to marry him, I thought he was offering me his hand and heart, but as it turned out later, he was offering me a stove and a mop.
The relationship between a man and a woman is an eternal mystery and somewhere a struggle. The struggle for leadership in career and everyday family life.
A large number of marriages break up during the first years of marriage. Who is to blame, men who are polygamous by nature and only look on the side and do not try to understand and pay due attention to their wife?
Or women who, after some time, turn into loud and obnoxious bitches, thinking about everything but their husband, and criticizing him for everything possible? In any case, husbands blame their wives and vice versa.
Is it possible that no one is to blame?
Maybe problems occur due to the fact that often people marry not a real person, but an image (idea) of someone they would like to see next to them. The image that may have developed in childhood, or maybe in youth, does not matter, but each of us has such an image inside.
We marry some ideal, and in the end, over time, we realize that we received only a pale idea of what we dreamed of. Or maybe try to change something, for example, somewhere to accept some shortcomings, somewhere to apply acting skills and influence the shortcomings and weaknesses of a person, somewhere. With a strong desire, everything is possible, the main thing is to do everything competently. Slowly and with patience.
It is also important to understand for yourself that there is nothing wrong with experiments and it is better than continuing to do the same thing day after day, remaining in the same, not the best relationship with your other half.
If everything is fine in your relationship, then great, if not, then do at least something.
You can’t cover everything in one text, and now the actions of a woman (wife) in relation to her husband, in my opinion, the opinion of a man.
What any man would like, what a woman and wife should be like or:
1) Take care of your husband as if he were your lover. Imagine, you are at home and now your husband is about to return from work - only not a husband, but a lover. How would you behave in this case?
They probably wore beautiful underwear and a dress. We would cook, not pasta with eggs and sausage (for 30 thousand Belarusian), but something interesting and even 
exquisite.
In the apartment, in the decor itself, they added a little romance and an atmosphere of intimacy. You would greet him with a smile and a playful sparkle in his eyes and would not bother your tired friend with questions about whether he did this or that, whether he bought what you asked for, etc. And they would only talk about pleasant nonsense and about the two of you.
Imagine how surprised your husband would be? How nice would it be for him? And how could this affect your relationship if you at least sometimes did this?
2) Be able to listen to your husband without interrupting him and try to understand his opinion by imagining yourself in his place. In this case, it will be easier to understand whether he is right or wrong. You need to be able to be for a man not only his wife, but also true friend, from whom you can ask for advice, get an opinion, etc.
If you don’t know how to listen to him and only your opinion remains important to you, then forget about sincere and good communication, which is so necessary in...
healthy psychology of communication and relationships, is the main thing on which a strong family is formed. Without normal communication, like without normal sex, nothing good will happen.
3) Even if you’re full, but it’s true, Be a keeper hearth in everyday life and. Everyone knows, not everyone uses it or forgets it over time.
A hot, lustful female in bed is what every, or almost every man dreams of and wants to see in his woman. Sometimes it's okay to let a friend do things to you that you might not like. Besides, there is a chance that over time you will start to like it too.
4) Be, in a good way, unpredictable for your husband. Monotony tires and creates boredom, and this is one of the most destructive relationships.
This does not mean that you need to be unpredictable in everything - today you like one thing, tomorrow it turns out that you never liked it. Yesterday you really liked the daisies your partner gave you, but today it turned out that you can’t stand them.
It is important to be sincere both with him and with yourself. At the same time, it is desirable from the very beginning of the relationship, so that there is no embarrassment later.
Unpredictability is good when He expects that today you will again do chores around the house or want to go for a walk in the evening and sit in a restaurant. And you, instead of doing housework, even important ones (nothing bad will happen if you put everything off until later), suggest taking a walk. And not to a restaurant, but to an amusement park or cinema, like in your first days of dating.
Think movies, cereal (pasta) and back seats in a dark theater. How long has it been since you last did this? And together with your husband?
Or you can offer him a spontaneous trip with you, to some city, for one day. Or the two of you can relax in nature and have sex. Forget about all the problems and worries at home, relax and spend this day alone with him, in a new place and with new sensations.
Great for decorating family life. Meeting your husband as a lover is also from this song. You can think of it if you want.
Just don’t be too zealous with unpredictability; it’s also important for us your predictability. Assume what can generally be expected of you, and stability. Everything should be in moderation.
5) Admire your husband, even if he has many shortcomings and is not a completely self-confident person. Remind him more often of his virtues, praise him for all possible good things and accept him as he is with all his shortcomings. Although there are those that can destroy any relationship (you can read about this at the link).
We all have our shortcomings, you just need to learn to accept a person as he is and pay less attention to something, as you did in the first time of your life together. And some of these shortcomings, if you analyze them well, even try to translate them into advantages.
Or is it so difficult, because there are so many shortcomings, but the cat has cried for advantages. Did you marry a complete nonentity or were you completely blind? This is not an excuse.
In addition, praise can activate a man’s desire to work on himself, especially if you are very dear to him. And from that loser, over time he may well come closer to the image that you imagined in him when you met.
Kind words, praise and light, pleasant and ironic banter can give very good results. And which, believe me, will not keep you waiting long.
Praise for everything you can, don’t over-praise - if your man is one of those for whom confirmation of his need and importance is important, this is what will make him better over time.
Often a woman literally creates a man out of a boy. And sometimes, a kind word and a gentle kiss can perform a miracle where any, even the most methods, will be powerless.
There's only one thing here "But", there are men, as well as women, who point-blank do not notice their shortcomings, and perceive praise as a given and obligatory.
In this case, praise will not help and you won’t have to expect any changes for the better from him. Most likely, he will simply, as they say, sit on your head.
If he wants to change something in himself, the only thing that will help is some kind of kick in the ass or, which is very likely, you yourself need to change something (). In general, only practice and experiment will help you determine what kind of husband you have.
6) And a little more about that, and - no one owes anyone anything. Build relationships on mutual understanding and trust, so that you both feel good and comfortable in this relationship. Setting some specific, closed boundaries can only lead, over time, to the desire to break them.
If people are smart, then they will determine the responsibilities and everything that should or should not happen for themselves, unless you can suggest or redirect the person’s thoughts somewhere.
But this does not mean that everything should be your way, that He owes you something and owes you something. Everything you do for each other is done out of mutual desire, and not in order to later tell the person - " I did this for you, please do it too"or talk" you shouldn't go there or do that". Let him decide for himself whether he needs it or not.
Wrong? then tell him, give him smart advice. If you had a truly warm and friendly relationship with him, your opinion will not be empty for him and he will listen and think again. If not, then read the paragraph 2.
7) Remain the way he loved you. Remember yourself, what were you like when you met? That image of you that he fell in love with. Fun or not so much; loving or not at all, the main thing is the one desired for him. Without all your experiments on yourself that you may have done to keep his interest in you.
You won’t be able to return something, just remember and get closer to that sincere one.
And with all this, do not forget and be careful with such a feeling as
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A happy, harmonious marriage is one of the components of a successful life. Each of us needs a family consisting of loved ones and loving people, a home to which we would like to return. Responsibility for the family hearth has always fallen on the shoulders of the woman. An ideal wife, what should she be like?
Commandments of an ideal wife
A girl who wants to create a harmonious family and become the only woman for the rest of her life, support and support for her chosen one, must learn the basic principles on which successful marriages are built. The commandments of an ideal wife are:
Any man looks at other women and unconsciously compares them with his chosen one. Also, by how a girl looks, how she behaves in society, how she is dressed, one can judge a man’s social status. The ideal wife knows that she is the “calling card” of her husband, so she always looks great, knows how to carry on a conversation and does not lose at all compared to other women.
Always maintain a positive image of your husband. Never scold him, humiliate him, or make a scene in front of strangers. Also, don't gossip about him with your friends. In society, you should always look good, radiate confident calm and pride.
- Be a support for your spouse.
When getting married, a woman should understand that life has its ups and downs. Any of us can experience a personal, creative or financial crisis. If a dark streak has come in a husband’s life, it is worthy for his wife to support him and go through this test with him.
An ideal wife will not blame her husband for the current crisis situation, but will try to help him get through a difficult moment. She will try to find a way out of the situation with him, support him morally, and will not let his faith in himself fade away.
- Be a good lover.
If you want to be the only woman for your spouse, you need to be able to replace all the other girls he might have. A good wife is always ready to surprise her beloved and does not deny him intimacy. If you are lucky enough to marry your loved one, this does not mean that the goal has been achieved and you can relax. Remember beautiful lingerie, romantic dinners and candlelit dates.
When you find yourself in the same bed with your husband, imagine that you are with your lover. In an intimate setting, forget that you are bound by common obligations, everyday life, children. Alone, you are casual acquaintances who only have the night ahead.
- Maintain your husband's authority in the eyes of your children.
Many women sin by pulling the blanket over themselves when raising the younger generation. The husband is most often busy with work, and the wife with everyday life. “I am the mistress of the house!” - the woman decides and begins to raise children, relying only on her own opinion and neglecting her husband’s considerations in this regard. The most common mistake is the situation when dad forbade something, but mom immediately allowed it, thereby undermining the father’s authority in the eyes of the child.
A woman’s task is to create the correct model of a family in the understanding of children. In addition, by neglecting the opinion of her husband, the wife shows her disrespect for him. A good mother will support the father's authority in the eyes of the child and will never argue with his decision or behave condescendingly towards him.
- Create comfort.
Do you know why men get married? Of course, not only for the sake of procreation. At all times, the stronger half of humanity has been fascinated by a woman’s ability to transform everything she touches into something beautiful. A good wife is able to create comfort even in the most modest apartment and her husband will not linger with friends after work, but will rush home.
To do this, you don’t need to invest a lot of effort and money, it’s enough to have a clean house, a hot dinner, obedient children and a loving woman! That's the whole secret!
- Allow your spouse to show his masculinity.
Many women behave as if they were forced into marriage, and continue to make all decisions on their own, strive to manage their spouse and subject everything around them to their control. This position is fundamentally wrong. Marriage presupposes that you are married, that is, “to your husband”! Think about these words. A good wife will be happy to pass on the leadership position to her chosen one. He will listen to her advice, but at the same time he will feel like a confident man, the head of the family, and not a henpecked man.
A wise woman who does not want her husband to turn into a weak-willed, boring and uninitiative person will not take on the “male” role in the family. She will allow her beloved to show his masculinity and will try to strengthen his self-confidence.
- Always be in a good mood.
Of course, maintaining a positive attitude throughout life is not easy. There are situations that can unsettle even the most optimistic person. But most of the time nothing happens in our lives except ordinary things. It is important to always maintain a good mood and not give in to despondency. Believe me, even in the daily routine there are many pleasant little things. After all, you can just be happy that you have a loving family!
It is difficult to live life with a person who constantly shows his dissatisfaction and is depressed. No man will be married to such a woman for long. A good wife remembers this and learns to switch her attention from negative to positive, bringing joy to her husband’s life.
Wisdom is the main quality of a good wife
An ideal wife shows feminine wisdom in all life situations. It is based, first of all, on love and respect for the spouse and all family members.
Wise woman:
- knows how to listen;
- does not argue or provoke conflicts;
- treats her husband's parents with respect;
- does not fight for leadership in the family;
- equally kind and attentive to all family members;
- knows how to convince her husband that she is right with affection and love;
- does not command, but gives advice;
- knows when to remain silent;
- follows her spouse and supports her in all situations.
In the modern world, the ideas of feminism and equality are more popular. Many girls have forgotten about femininity, their destiny laid down by nature. But any position has the right to exist, everyone gets what they strive for.
A wife who tries to make her marriage harmonious, become wiser and changes herself for the better, receives in return a happy family, well-mannered children and a loving spouse!
Sveta, Balashikha
Most men dream of an ideal woman or an ideal wife, and the majority of girls want to live up to this status in relation to their man.
The wish that is most often addressed to the bride is to be an ideal wife. But what does this mean? What are the qualities of an ideal wife or girlfriend?
Most of the signs of “ideality” are already present in every woman, and the missing ones can be developed if there is desire and a supply of energy.
Married life is not the easiest process in which a woman is literally the soul of the marriage, since without her, home life turns into chaos.
And no matter that no two girls are alike, some of the most important qualities are inherent in all women.
The ideal wife, the ideal woman, the ideal girl. 32 qualities
1. Appearance and sex appeal
The ideal wife is always attractive and, of course, you should really like her appearance. She has a good figure, and you, in turn, should feel constant sexual attraction to her.
In general, it is worth noting that appearance is a rather subjective phenomenon. If we recall the favorite 10-point scale invented by men to assess the level of female attractiveness, then the winner of the “10 points” nomination for one man may well be rated 6 points by another cheerful guy.
The fact is that every man has his own type of woman. But if something confuses you about the appearance of your chosen one, you should think about it - huh?
Women need warmth, tenderness, and receiving. How can you give her all this if you are not physically attracted to her? Do you want to create a reason for?
In addition, the ideal girl does not treat her appearance as something unchanging, so she constantly takes care of herself, bothering with the obligatory work of keeping herself in shape.
2. Sexual compatibility
A woman who claims to be an ideal wife must be sexually compatible with her man.
Significant differences in sexual temperament will cause serious problems in life together, which could lead to their collapse or.
3. Femininity
A long time ago, there was no need to discuss such a trait of an ideal wife. The statement that a woman should be feminine seemed as absurd as specifying when buying a car that you need a steering wheel as an option.
However, at present, the firmware of a certain part of the female layer of society periodically fails, endowing women with certain masculine traits or some bad qualities, forcing men to figure out, for example, how to recognize her.
4. Intelligence
Undoubtedly, guys are initially attracted to girls by their appearance. But the presence of female intelligence makes a man not only feel a rapid heartbeat, but also open his mouth.
She does not need to have a doctorate in philosophy or be a candidate of physical and mathematical sciences, but sufficient reading and understanding of the important fundamentals of the essence of being is an important quality.
Smart men appreciate smart women. And how can you call an ideal girl whose circle of knowledge and interests is limited to monitoring new posts of friends on social networks?
Do not forget that, among other things, you will also have to communicate with your chosen one, and for this the girl must be able to carry on a conversation.
5. Confidence and self-esteem
Combine feminine beauty with confidence, and you will get an unsurpassed fighting friend who will help you conquer the whole world and achieve your most cherished goals.
– one of the best qualities of any person. A confident woman has her own plans and ambitions, knows her worth, knows who she is, what she wants, where she is going, and how to contribute to the development of a relationship with a man.
And yet, confidence in this case is not the most important quality, especially if it is detrimental to the manifestation of femininity.
6. Mental maturity
There is a saying that girls are born adults, while boys mature throughout their lives.
But over the past few decades, there has been a downward trend in female maturity. It is not so rare to find female representatives aged about 30 who are not used to taking responsibility in life or behave childishly.
Maturity is a trait that only comes with experience. It is the reward that a person receives as a result of overcoming life's obstacles that arise on the way to his dreams and ambitions.
The immature girl never tried to achieve anything through her own efforts, never suffered, and, as a result, remained under the influence of childish thinking.
In addition, a mentally mature woman has no desire to disappear into a noisy company, and she is not interested in evening meetings with her friends. She is completely ready for a serious relationship.
No experience - no suffering, growth and maturity. She may be a stunningly beautiful girl, but she will never be the perfect wife.
7. Self-sufficiency
Successful self-sufficient people are extremely independent by nature. They are very focused, in a constant struggle to change their future and the world around them.
And it is not surprising that such a person has some contempt for people who are excessively attached to anything in their life, even when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex.
A woman who clings to a relationship may be a nice gift for some type of male part of society, but she will not be a suitable option for a man who lives life to the fullest.
There is something wrong with this if a girl is completely dependent on her man.
Perhaps she does not have her own close circle, or she does not know how to build relationships with them.
It is possible that she is a born housewife, and she has no need to go to work or have her own hobby, except for family and household affairs.
But the ideal wife must have a healthy level of self-sufficiency. She must have her own friends, goals and ambitions.
The only thing that limits her independence is loyalty to her beloved man and devotion to the relationship.
8. Loyalty
Loyalty is one of the most important qualities of an ideal woman. This means that she has values and principles that will not allow her to blindly follow her emotions towards any other man.
Modern culture often portrays women as free from any obligations.
But men with mature views on life, with rare exceptions, will perceive such behavior as sexual. No normal man will ever take such women seriously.
After all, if a girl cannot be called faithful, then there is no reason to invest in a relationship with her, because at any moment she can easily leave for someone else, leaving you alone with the realization of your own stupidity.
Easy to come, easy to go.
9. Modesty
She knows that pride and an inflated ego are the root of many disasters and disappointments.
Therefore, the ideal girl allows other people to sing songs of praise to her, but at the same time does not consider it necessary to brag about herself and her merits.
10. Respect
Mutual respect is important in any relationship, so an ideal wife makes sure to show respect to her husband.
She will not belittle your merits, try to insult or humiliate you, both alone and in society.
11. Honesty
Few people will want to tie themselves in ties with a person who can deceive without a twinge of conscience.
In addition, most men do not know how to guess what is on a woman’s mind, so it will be better if a girl is able to speak out directly, no matter what she thinks or feels, because this is the only way to effectively deal with problems that arise in a relationship.
12. Kindness
The ideal woman is a balm for the soul, made from joy and kindness.
People are filled with positive emotions when she is nearby, and her smile can melt the ice of a bad mood and extinguish the fire of raging anger.
13. A pinch of determination
A woman who cannot make the most trivial decision, such as choosing cheese in a grocery store, can hardly be called ideal.
Most often, it is men who take responsibility for making the most serious decisions: where to build a new nuclear power plant, whether to acquire a controlling stake in a large enterprise, whether to send troops to restore order in the region.
But any man has the right to go home without having to worry about what color tea towels should be bought, or what meat should be cooked for dinner.
14. Understanding and support
The life path of any person will not always be strewn with roses. There will definitely come times when things go from bad to worse.
Despite the fact that men are better prepared to act in unpredictable situations, they still need the support and warmth of the woman they love.
One of the attributes of an ideal wife is her willingness to listen to men's problems because she is your biggest supporter.
And even if a woman is not able to change the situation for the better through her own volitional actions, she can provide invaluable help with her attention and understanding alone.
The perfect girl is willing to let her boyfriend be vulnerable. When, for one reason or another, he finds himself thrown to the sidelines of life, the chosen one will calm him down and help him get back on his feet.
15. Trust, reliability and responsibility
You, her friends and her family have no lack of trust in her. The ideal girl keeps her word when she makes a commitment, no matter what it is.
If you have good reason not to trust your friend, you are at a dead end. Failure to keep a promise is the attitude of a fraudster whose misbehavior will be repeated again and again.
16. Caring
She is used to caring for others, which is clearly evident in her attitude towards her family and friends early in the development of your acquaintance.
If she does not support her family members and does not have close friends, this is a bad sign, because the importance of not having the habit and desire to care about other people will subsequently be reflected in the attitude towards you.
17. Flexibility and wisdom
Compromise is the key that opens the door to happiness in any relationship.
Is she ready to watch the match of your favorite football team with you, although you know that sports competitions are not her thing?
This is great, because flexibility and the ability to take a step forward are very important qualities of an ideal woman.
In addition, she does not tolerate quarrels and scandals, not allowing conflicts to undermine your life together.
She knows how to control her emotions, and also has no cravings for alcohol, smoking and is free from other harmful types of addiction.
She always thinks before she speaks and looks ahead before taking a step.
19. She loves you unconditionally
Every person has flaws. An ideal wife can't stand her husband's imperfections and loves him for who he is.
She doesn't criticize your sense of style or some bad habits you have. She does not compare you, pointing out your flaws, with the heroes of books, novels or the husbands of her friends. She doesn't delve into your past or be negative about your plans for the future.
Minor attempts to positively correct you on the part of a girl should not cause doubts, but if she is trying to organize a major overhaul of the structure of your personality, intending to make a different person out of you, you should seriously think about it.
20. She is your best friend
The strongest marital union is one in which the man and woman are best friends.
The ideal girl is able to share with you all the unpleasant experiences and sincere dreams. The absence of secrets between you brings positive results, making your relationship only stronger.
21. She shares your interests
Having common interests is a great way to spend time together, enjoying a joint activity, after which you can enthusiastically discuss how it was for a long time.
22. She appreciates you and expresses gratitude
An ideal wife will appreciate everything you do for her and your family because even a simple “thank you” can have an impact on your relationship.
She will definitely thank you and praise you for your hard work. that your woman appreciates you, you are charged with energy and filled with the desire to make your family even happier.
23. Being around her makes you a better person.
And this is not because your chosen one is pushing you in the neck, but simply next to her you absolutely involuntarily become the best version of yourself.
She is your muse for action, doping for new victories and achievements. Together with her you feel very comfortable and at ease, and communication goes as if by itself, without any effort.
24. She treats other people well
Treating other people with respect is a valuable trait in an ideal woman because she can bring joy wherever she goes with you, be it your friends or family members.
In addition, she has a wonderful relationship with her family, which is based on respect, trust and love.
25. She doesn't try to manipulate
Manipulation is the favorite behavior tactic of any woman.
Whenever girls argue with their boyfriends, they tend to press on with feelings of guilt and duty, raise already forgotten problems that were resolved many years ago, suddenly cry, or use another technique from the arsenal of their own manipulative preparations.
And here we are not talking about eradicating this habitual trait of the feminine essence, but so that its manifestation is not too harsh, out of place and destructive in nature.
A woman should not have as her goal the desire to fuck her man, who in turn should keep his ears to the ground, and either radically change the current situation, preventing such impudent behavior in the future, or simply find a worthy replacement for the unbridled savage.
26. She is a good housewife
For an ideal wife, keeping her home clean and tidy is no problem at all, because she is sure that a healthy environment is the key to a cheerful spirit and good mood.
A housewife is the most important factor in a happy life together and family well-being.
A lazy young lady, who is alien to the desire to arrange a family home and maintain it in proper order, should not have a place next to you.
27. She knows how and loves to cook delicious food
The path to a man's heart leads through the culinary skills of an ideal woman.
There is no denying the fact that all guys love to eat, and girls love to be praised for their skillful cooking skills.
A woman who hates the kitchen and doesn't know how to cook is not the most necessary attribute of any man's life.
28. Personal space
Even when in a relationship or marriage, each partner should have personal space, and even more so the one who dares to call himself a man.
You have every right to spend some time alone and to be free from interference with your personal belongings, books, notebooks, laptop or phone.
The ideal wife does not stick her nose into your affairs exclusively, does not dribble on your brain for no particular reason, and also does not get jealous of you over trifles.
29. She doesn't hold you accountable.
Questions about who you dated, why you did it, or why you didn't can really irritate a person.
Happy relationships are built on trust and understanding, and turning them into constant interrogation causes doubt and anger.
If communication has slowly descended to the level of inquisition, a man will have three options: start lying, stop such behavior once and for all, or continue searching for the ideal woman.
30. She knows how to have fun
All sternly serious people have a repulsive energy, and living without the ability to be ironic and have fun is quite a burden.
But the ideal girl, with a sense of humor and a willingness to have fun in your company, is eager not only to visit a nightclub together, but also to play video games with you, ride bicycles, go on a hike together, jump with a parachute or in some other interesting way.
31. Emotional stability
Girls with a cool and unbridled disposition can be a lot of fun in the short term, but you are unlikely to want to exchange your life for a person who can light up out of the blue like a torch without obvious preconditions.
On the other hand, those who like to fall into despair or simply cry for no reason should also cause you some caution.
32. Common goals and values
No matter what anyone says, to live together you should choose a like-minded person who matches your level of development, upbringing, education and outlook on life.
The lack of common goals and values, as well as the termination of either side of the relationship, may well become the subsequent reason for their collapse.
1. a woman must love her husband and children. Without a love relationship, she loses satisfaction, no matter how successful she is in other areas of life.
2. a woman should always be cheerful. This makes her protected from all troubles. Cheerfulness is a sign of innocence, and this creates a natural need in men to care. Children's and women's laughter is the best soothing for a man's hearing after a hard day at work.
3. Dishes should always be clean. Cleanliness of dishes is an indicator of a woman’s purity and a guarantee of peace in the family. The best option is for the husband to be constantly surprised: “When does such cleanliness have time to be restored?” 4. A woman should always be economical in expenses. The ideal combination of efforts is as follows: the husband tries to earn as much as possible, and the wife tries to spend as little as possible. Such a family is invincible becomes.
5. A woman must understand that family relationships depend on her behavior. The goal of her life is to create a harmonious family, she should become a professional in this. Thus, if she takes responsibility for family happiness, then the man will not be able to change or interfere with anything. A woman controls a relationship, not a man - these are two different things, and confusing them is destructive.
6. A woman must learn to manage her husband, but not to command. A good wife knows how to get her way from her husband through changes in clothing, tone of voice, home interior and taste of food, while remaining affectionate and helpful. But she does all this not for herself, but for the whole family, realizing that it is easier to achieve the right decision this way than by arguing or shouting.
7. A woman should not be offended. A woman’s mind can keep a detailed list of all her husband’s mistakes and miscalculations for a long time, but this is what kills her as a woman: this way she simply loses her attractiveness and peace.
8. A woman should not take revenge. Nobility adorns a woman.
9. A woman should not be jealous. Envy is the complete opposite of humility and simplicity. This feeling completely disqualifies a woman as a wife. As a rule, such a woman brings nothing but trouble both in her home and in any place she visits.
10. A woman should not “Nail” her husband, because this is a sign of her lack of intelligence. A smart woman accurately calculates the time, place and circumstances to approach her with a request, and speaks only once, but these words penetrate the man’s soul, he is tormented by doubts for some time, and then fulfills the request as a gift and becomes happy that he brought joy to his wife. A woman should be very happy and show that she did not expect it, that she is grateful and delighted.
11. A woman should not pretend to be a victim. This forbidden technique is usually used when the ground begins to slip from under one’s feet in the area of relationship control.
12. A woman must “Burn Bridges.” Family happiness will not come from partially devoting yourself to your husband. Complete and undivided surrender of oneself is one of the conditions for a successful marriage. Divorces have appeared quite recently and clearly not from a pious life.
13. A woman should not develop feminine qualities in her husband. Only if she does this will she become bored as a result: a husband is not a girlfriend. A happy and productive marriage will be when both partners learn to use the full potential of their gender differences. Complementing each other is more productive, and opposites attract.
14. A woman must learn to attract her husband kindly. Not with the body, but with character traits. Lust will certainly cause disappointment later, and chastity will cause respect and a desire for care.
15. A wife should inspire her husband with her femininity. She needs to approve in every possible way any achievements of her husband. Even though he demands truthful and sober judgment from her, she should always only praise him, otherwise he will become an enemy for life.
16. A woman should not be familiar. Respecting your husband is the only possible form of communication with him to preserve the family.
17. A woman should have a sense of humor. This is how a tired housewife, after a day's work, has fun with his wife. Moreover, the sphere of expression of emotions is a purely female element.
18. A woman should be shy. This quality gives a special charm to the fair sex and evokes the respect of men. It enhances a woman's beauty even if she is less beautiful than others. Shyness, along with gullibility and defenselessness, cannot be imitated, but can only be developed, constantly improving, which will be the best gift for a husband.
19. A woman should dress according to her husband’s wishes. Not yours! She cannot guess for herself what he likes at one time or another, so she should dress and show herself, but not be offended if he says something like: “She’s dressed up like she’s going to the Bazaar.” A man satisfied with the appearance of his wife does not begin to seek satisfaction in looking at others.
20. A wife should appreciate her husband. Whatever he does for the house should be judged to the highest standard. Any underestimation will immediately cause anger in him and a desire to quit what he started.
21. The wife must respect her husband's friends and family members. The concept of “husband” includes his entire environment, all his thoughts, deeds, plans and hopes. The wrong attitude towards your husband’s environment will make him think about your value and, God forbid, you will tip his scales.
22. The wife should develop her ability for art. This will completely occupy her mind, make her beautiful, mysterious and calm, but not at the expense of her daily responsibilities.
How do you know you've met the right guy with whom you want to spend the rest of your life? Do you want to be sure that you didn’t make a mistake in your choice? Then read on to find out what qualities you need to look for in a man, so that you don’t regret anything later.
I've been married twice. This taught me a lot, including how I began to understand men quite well. From my experience, I want to say that love in marriage is not enough.
Don't get me wrong. I don't mean that love is not at all important in marriage. You need to be head over heels in love with the person you are going to marry, otherwise you risk falling in love with someone else while you are married. So what qualities should your future husband still have so that your boat of love does not crash into family life?
#1 Honesty
The first and, perhaps, the most important quality that should be inherent in your chosen one is honesty. First of all, he must be honest with himself. He needs to know his weaknesses and strengths, shortcomings and what he is capable of in life. When spouses are honest with themselves and with each other, it is much easier to remain open in the marriage and willing to dialogue with each other.
№2 Reliability
Your future husband must be reliable. Can you be sure that he will not forget to pick you up from work? Will he remember that he needs to pick up the children after the sports section or will he go to the bar with his friends? Do his words always match his actions when he promises to go to the store or clean out his closet?
#3 Kindness
Another important quality for a family man is kindness. You may not believe it, but in fact, men who have this quality are quite rare. A man should be kind to you, to a stranger, to children, to the elderly. If a man is kind to everyone, he will be kind to you. If he helps old women cross the road or does charity work, then he is a very kind person.
#4 Monogamy
Without any doubt, the future spouse must be monogamous. I have read quite a few articles in which scientists have proven that monogamy is not inherent in humans, but I believe that a person can be faithful in marriage and monogamy is a very important quality for a life partner. There is nothing more valuable than the confidence that your soul mate belongs to you and only you.
No. 5 Same views on life
Since you will have to communicate for the rest of your days, it is necessary that you look at life through the same eyes. If your boyfriend is a very religious person and you are not, then you should discuss this issue. If you want twelve children and he doesn't have any, you need to find a compromise.
In marriage, you will often have to look for compromises, so it is important that you and your future husband have at least the same ideals.
#6 Sexual attractiveness
People quite often say: “Sex is not the most important thing,” but I’m willing to argue about that. I think it's important to be sure that you excite the man with whom you plan to wake up every morning in the same bed for the rest of your life. I know relationships where the sex was okay, but there were problems emotionally and spiritually. Do you know how it ended? They broke up.
Sexual attractiveness is extremely important in a relationship because if a man does not satisfy or excite you, then you are more likely to avoid intimacy with him. Now I'm in my early thirties. The only thing I pay attention to in men is sexuality, because at my age sex is a necessity for me (nothing can be done - the biological clock is ticking). This awaits you too, believe me.
Don't think that intimate moments aren't important. You are wrong! A man needs to know that he satisfies you.
#7 Sense of humor
An equally important quality for a life partner is a sense of humor. Life consists of black and white stripes. Sometimes you just want to laugh heartily with your loved one and forget about all your problems for a while. My ex-husband was a foreigner. It was sometimes difficult for him to understand our humor. While watching old Russian films, there were moments when I was dying of laughter, but he didn’t understand these jokes. It was common for me to laugh to myself. By the way, if you plan to have children, you both will benefit from a sense of humor.
No. 8 Love for children
When talking about children, try to understand what attitude your boyfriend has towards them. If you both want to have children in the future, watch how he behaves around children.
#9 Quality of a family man
Before you decide to take a serious step in your life, you must discuss not only the issue of children, first of all you must be sure that your chosen one has the quality of a good family man. He must protect his family, take care of you, respect you as his wife, and his children must respect him. Look for strong qualities of a family man in your future husband!
#10 Respect
Finally, the last but not the least important thing to pay attention to is respect for each other. You can't love a person you don't respect. You need to make sure that your future husband is hardworking, reliable, kind and caring. These qualities are very important for a man. Your man should treat you with respect. If he doesn't respect your ideas and views, then he doesn't deserve you - run as far away from him as possible. But if your boyfriend has all or most of the above mentioned qualities, then appreciate him, respect him, love him and you will live a long and happy life together.
Which of these qualities does your boyfriend or husband have? Let's discuss this!
Based on the results of numerous sociological surveys, the qualities of an ideal wife were determined.
- Thrift
Since ancient times, a woman has been considered the keeper of the hearth. She must do everything possible to ensure that the house is always clean and tidy, and that a delicious dinner is waiting for her husband on the stove. Created comfort, care for your husband, delicious smells of culinary masterpieces are the first step towards ideality.
- Wisdom
What makes a woman wise is not only life experience, but also constant work on herself. If you have an excellent education, you are literate and speak fluently in foreign languages, but your chosen one writes with errors and has not learned his native language well, you should not brag about your skills by humiliating him.
What should an ideal wife be like? This is a smart lady who will help her other half grow with her, tactfully avoiding conflict situations, she has her own interests and social circle, is constantly developing and remains a mystery to her husband. She will provide strong support in time, and when necessary she will become an affectionate cat.
- Appearance
The ideal wife, according to men, always looks well-groomed. You don't have to be a stunning beauty to please your spouse. It is necessary not to neglect your hairbrush and makeup, visit beauty salons and eat right - not only your husband, but also you will like the results of regular appearance care! Many psychologists who save married couples from divorce recommend throwing away old bathrobes, closed pajamas, stretched T-shirts and worn-out slippers. Even at home you need to dress neatly and attractively.
- Ability to support
How should a wife treat her husband? She must become a support and support, respect his interests, be there in both sorrow and joy, sympathize with failures and sincerely rejoice in victories. A man is the head of the family, he is a breadwinner and reliable protection, so you need to listen to his words and praise him for his actions. You shouldn’t constantly criticize and “nag” your loved one - for a woman who sees him as a strong personality, her husband is ready to move mountains.
- Sexuality
Intimate relationships play an important role in the lives of spouses. What kind of woman should be in bed? Open, ready to please her loved one, not afraid of experiments and always ready to fulfill her marital duty. In the bedroom of an ideal couple, the phrases “my head hurts” or “not today, I’m tired” do not sound.
Qualities of a future wife. Qualities of a good wife
Qualities of a good wife
The main qualities of a good wife include the familiar ability to cook, creating and maintaining comfort in the home and more. It would seem that who among the women does not know how to do this? But to the surprise of many, some girls never learned to cook well and tasty. Failure to understand the importance of this knowledge leads to the husband feeling deprived and the children feeling unkempt. In addition, what is very important here is not just the ability to cook and clean the house, but the performance of these actions with love. Even scientists today agree that a person's mood is reflected in what he does. That is why a dish that is prepared with love will be much tastier than one that is made simply according to what is needed. What can we say about the atmosphere in the house when a woman has invested a piece of her soul into it. Such a house is filled with light and warmth; you want to return to it. That’s why it’s so important to talk to your husband with a smile, radiating care and warmth.
But here it is necessary to mention that not everything in the family should be taken only on your fragile shoulders. If a man is gloomy and unfriendly, does not consider it necessary to say at least one pleasant word, is always dissatisfied with whatever you do and constantly reproaches you for not doing anything, sincerely believing that household chores are not work, find the strength to force yourself respect or look for another man who will appreciate you. A good wife is not a woman who tries to please a man in everything, putting up with his disrespect and unfounded claims with a smile. A real wife always loves and respects herself, she values her work and knows how to remind all family members of this. And in the event of a deep misunderstanding, she stops pleasing everyone and does what brings her joy. A good wife will never sacrifice herself to those who take everything she does for granted.
If we delve deeper into scientific research, it is worth saying that domestic work is comparable to the work of a mason or builder. And although today household appliances make women’s work easier, they cannot completely replace it, especially when it comes to cleaning and cooking. Therefore, it is not only very important to be able to cook well, always be in a good mood and maintain home comfort, but to love and appreciate yourself. Only then will a woman be truly happy and become a good wife, especially when she is loved and appreciated by her husband and children. In the end, a woman who is unsure of herself begins to gradually experience discomfort deep down in her soul, which leads to a gradual increase in her nervousness and claims towards everyone around her. As a result, the atmosphere in the house begins to rapidly deteriorate, becoming suffocating and heavy. Everyone runs away from such a house just to avoid being in it. If you still doubt the need to pamper yourself and take care of your appearance, remember that the mental health of your family and its longevity directly depends on this.
We provide you with four qualities of an ideal wife according to Leonid Tugutov, a famous scientist in Vedic knowledge. Compliance with these requirements will allow a woman to create the right “weather” in family relationships and avoid most conflict situations at the everyday level.
1. A good wife respects her husband. In general, mutual respect between spouses is the basis of a happy family life. And in order for a man to be happy, he must see that a woman sees good qualities in him and for her he is always a hero and she quite sincerely admires him.
2. A good wife unquestioningly obeys her husband's orders. In a happy family life, a woman should forget about her “I” more often. Many women begin to look for logic in their husband’s orders and, based on this, draw conclusions about whether it should be carried out or not. Here's what you need to consider. Firstly, male and female logic are absolutely not friends with each other. Secondly, the husband sometimes acts in a completely illogical way. The fact is that it is important for him to see the very fact of execution. Understand that his wife obeys him. Only after making sure of his wife’s obedience will a man give the woman his full protection and take her under his protection. Only the reasonable behavior of a wife and her submission awakens responsibility and his other best qualities in a husband. With correct feminine behavior, a smart, good wife can turn a fool, a scoundrel and a miser into a wise, brave and generous person. Ladies, remember that “The husband is the head, and the wife is the neck. Wherever it turns, that’s where the head looks.”
3. A good wife is not angry or offended by her husband. This is completely reasonable behavior. If a woman is angry, then a man automatically assumes that he is not perfect and is acting unfairly. The worst thing about this is that his wife sees it too. If the wife is not offended or angry, then this behavior stimulates her husband to self-regulation and self-change.
4. A good wife does everything for her husband’s happiness and peace. Otherwise, the man will look for satisfaction on the side. And this applies not only to the sexual sphere. Very often men lack ordinary simple relationships and affection.
