Have you ever thought that many of the problems you face in life are due to lack of self-confidence? Remember how you didn’t dare to apply for your dream job, how you were afraid to start a conversation with the person you liked, refused a chic outfit, couldn’t defend your point of view in an argument, and then again and again blamed yourself for “giving in” or missing out another chance. Lack of self-confidence causes a lot of inconvenience. It’s difficult to live a happy, harmonious life if you constantly doubt and repeat to yourself: “Am I worthy of this?”, “Can I do it?”, “Am I that good?” It's time to change the situation, in this article you will learn how to believe in yourself.

How to believe in yourself

There are several effective rules, following which you can get rid of self-doubt and significantly improve your quality of life. So how to believe in yourself? Just follow the recommendations:

1. Stop beating yourself up for imperfections. There is nothing perfect in the world. Accept yourself for who you are, with all your flaws. Allow yourself to be yourself, without reproaching for this or that feature of your character or appearance.
2. Reconsider your social circle. Strive to interact with those who value you, believe in you and support you in any situation. Limit communication with people who emanate negative energy. This will help you move forward, rather than stagnate, increasing self-doubt.
3. Fight your fears. You don't have to start with a skydive if you're afraid of heights. Move gradually. If your problem is fear of new acquaintances, overcome yourself and meet someone. Start taking courses that interest you, such as a dance class or a film club. This will give you the opportunity to feel more confident in the company of like-minded people.
4. Take care of your health. Think about whether you are eating right and eliminating harmful foods from your diet. Start playing sports, at least at home. After a few workouts, you will feel a surge of strength not only in your body, but also in your soul.
5. Pay attention to your image. Perhaps you have always wanted to change your monotonous wardrobe to bright, colorful outfits? Or switch from a sporty style of clothing to a more romantic one? The moment has come - act! Be bold and don’t limit yourself in finding “your” look.
6. Get inspired! Go to interesting exhibitions, read good literature, listen to high-quality music, watch cinema masterpieces. What else was art created for if not for this? Find at least an hour a day to enjoy the beautiful.
7. Learn new things. Learn to do something you couldn't do before. The Internet is full of video tutorials in a variety of areas. Work on your speech and voice, learn a foreign language, start knitting or tap dancing. New skills will allow you to look at yourself from a different perspective.

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Vedic astrology about confidence and uncertainty

The natal chart contains a huge amount of information about a person. You can find out how self-confident a person is based on the position of the Sun in the natal chart. The Sun (Surya) is the “king” of the planets. It is an indicator of a person’s self-confidence, his leadership qualities, willpower, success in business, and position in society.

A person with a strong Sun (the Sun “works” especially powerfully in the sign of Leo or Aries, as well as in the 1st house) does not have problems with self-confidence. He has leadership qualities and does not tend to doubt his abilities.

If the Sun is in Libra or Aquarius, then its energy is expressed extremely weakly. Sun placed in the 12th house is also an indicator of lack of self-confidence. But you shouldn’t think that a weak Sun is a death sentence. Even with the unfortunate position of this planet in your natal chart, you cannot give up and think that you are doomed to eternal doubts about your capabilities.

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Confident people are not afraid to communicate and do not shy away from others, they go towards their goals without despairing if obstacles arise along the way, they respect themselves and others, they do not look around and do not assert themselves at the expense of others. Such people know that if they don’t have something they want now, they will definitely get it later. A few simple recommendations will help you believe in yourself.

Do we understand correctly what self-confidence is? Probably the best and most accessible definition of this quality is confidence in one’s strengths, abilities, capabilities, confidence that you can complete the work you have started and solve the problem that has arisen.

But confidence does not come to us from birth. It accumulates with positive experiences, grows with successes, decreases with failures, and constantly changes throughout life. Even from childhood, love, appreciation, and attention from parents begin to form a child’s faith or lack of faith in himself. If he is treated kindly and loved, then he believes in his strength and attractiveness. If he constantly receives punches and the phrases “Get out, you slob and lazy person,” then he withdraws into himself with a feeling of his own worthlessness. In the future, self-confidence is influenced by academic success, the team, the attitude of peers and teachers, work, and personal life.

Naturally, each of us periodically experiences bouts of uncertainty. But if you understand that this feeling prevails, preventing you from spreading your wings, you need to start growing confidence within yourself.

1. From the very beginning, define the concept of confidence for yourself personally. How you want to be, how you will behave in different situations. This way you can understand that you have achieved your goal. For example, only a self-confident person can do what he likes, despite the bad forecasts and assessments of others, communicate openly and meet people. This person immediately asks for help if he needs it, boldly expresses his opinion, and just as boldly and firmly refuses to do what he cannot or does not want to do.

2. Don't compare yourself to more successful people and don't envy them. Someone may be more educated, slimmer or richer than you, but you also have your own unique set of abilities and the opportunity to change, develop, and learn missing skills. Better try to learn something from them.

3. Find a confident person in your circle. Take a closer look at his behavior, try to copy him in those moments when you lack self-confidence. This may be a collective image consisting of several people. The main thing is to be able to enter the role at the right moment, review your role model in your memory and reproduce his posture, hand movements, facial expression and intonation of voice - external changes will cause changes within you.

4. Analyze your behavior in different situations. What did you do? How would a confident person behave? What stopped you from behaving the same way? What will you do if a similar situation happens again?

5. Make a list of positive qualities and skills that you need to improve and work on them. You can set aside a certain time to develop one or another quality, the absence of which hinders your confidence, and work with each in order. Just be realistic when setting aside time for their development. Too short a time frame will leave no chance for success. You don't need new disappointments now.

6. Write down all your negative statements. Instead, make up opposite positive formulas. For example: “I am confident in my strengths and abilities. I know how to please people." Repeat these statements to yourself. Self-hypnosis will create a good mood and prepare the ground for action. Picture yourself as a confident person as often as possible.

7. To throw off the burden of past failures and self-doubt, make a list of your achievements from childhood to the present. Sports awards, a difficult exam, a foreign language or an exotic dish... Find a place on this list even for the smallest achievement. Look into it, and then you won’t be able to say that you are “incapable of anything.”

8 . Make new acquaintances. Friends and family who have known you for many years will find it difficult to accept your changes. Your new manners and behavior may cause them to be ironic or even wary. New friends have not yet had time to label you as “average” or “loser”, and will easily accept you with all the changes.

9. Don't forget that appearance matters. Play sports, wear nice clothes, do makeup and manicure. This is especially important for women - most of the ladies I interviewed said that when they want to feel at their best, they try to look very good.

10. And further. In order to feel confident and strong, you need to show yourself in action. Figure out your goals and boldly begin to achieve them. It is new successes that will best strengthen your self-confidence.

So, on the path to confidence there are easier and more difficult stages. Give yourself enough time, be patient, and luck will be in your hands.

Love, appreciate and respect yourself!

The main way to help is communication. A frank conversation allows you to understand a person’s state of mind and figure out what exactly is preventing him from realizing his dream. It is important to find the most comfortable environment for the interlocutor so that he can open up. Some prefer to talk in private, others find it easier to discuss everything during the game, while others talk about painful issues in the form of a joke.

COMMON GOALS OR DESIRE

Try to identify common goals and objectives and unite to implement them. This will be a support, because it will be easier to move along the intended path together. This will help the person gain confidence in their abilities.

ANALYSIS OF A CLOSE PERSON'S ENVIRONMENT

Our environment greatly influences us: it can either give us strength and fuel our sense of self-worth, or just the opposite. Focus on finding like-minded people. The more people in a company with an active lifestyle, who realize their dreams and convey an attitude of success, the higher the chances of believing in yourself and achieving a lot.

TIME TOGETHER

Spend your time usefully: watch inspiring films, read books, do creative work together. This provides an opportunity for indirect influence; you push a person in the right direction, helping to cultivate self-confidence. Communication will pave the way for conversations.

PRAISE AND ENCOURAGEMENT

Failures and parental disapproval create self-doubt. To help a person get rid of thoughts of his own inadequacy, praise and encouragement are necessary. There is no need to flatter or praise just like that. Give value to what a person does.

Instead of “It’s good that you finally nailed this shelf. Thank you!" say: “It’s so good that you nailed the shelf: we don’t need to spend money on a master and wait for his arrival!”

PROMOTION TO YOUR DREAM STEP BY STEP

If the goal seems difficult to achieve, then self-disappointment sets in even before the person takes the first step. He doesn't know where to start. You need to help your loved one break a big goal into small manageable tasks that will move him towards his dream step by step.

For example, your friend wants to lose 20 kg in six months. The stages on the way to the goal can be as follows: find a nutritionist and create a menu, sign up for the gym and choose a set of workouts, start preparing healthy meals.

In 2015, 24,982 Russians decided to voluntarily die by committing suicide. The reasons range from dismissal to betrayal. However, they are only what lies on the surface, the reason that pushed a person to take a fatal step. The reason is deeper: 99% of suicides are people who have lost hope and confidence. How not to lose faith in yourself, not to let circumstances break your inner core if everything around you is collapsing?

Why do people lose faith in themselves?

Faith is confidence in the invisible. A person’s self-confidence is built over years, starting from early childhood. Alexey Nemov, the author of a popular psychology textbook, notes that a person’s confidence is formed by social institutions:

• family;
• preschool institutions;
• educational institutions;
• place of work.

The environment has a huge influence - it is much easier to believe if you are confident that you will be supported and helped, and will not be tripped up when you are not expecting it.

Many insecure people carry this insecurity from childhood. “You’re no good for anything,” the father says to his son. “You need to lose weight at all costs, otherwise guys won’t like you!” - mother teaches her daughter. And they have no idea that in 45% of cases, the complexes and insecurities inherent in childhood will remain with a person throughout his life!

Everyone can name many such examples from their personal life. Hence the rule that you need to follow when applying to yourself and raising children this way:

If you fail, you need to learn a lesson from it, finding positive aspects, creating a situation of success.

This simple rule will help you maintain confidence and consistently move towards achieving your goal with a positive attitude. However, it should be remembered that self-confidence and self-confidence are two different things. Faith helps you achieve goals that you can achieve, while self-confidence pushes you to take reckless actions that are doomed to failure.

How not to lose faith in yourself?

Think about what could “unsettle” you and make you give up? Sociologists have compiled a sad top 10 events that affected the self-esteem of those who fell into the grip of depression:

1. Death of a loved one.
2. Betrayal of a marriage partner, family breakdown.
3. Disappointment in a loved one.
4. Absence of a couple for a long time.
5. Job loss.
6. Business failure.
7. The collapse of hope for something.
8. Inability to meet someone's requirements.
9. Serious illness.
10. The ridicule of others.

These events “break” our compatriots, causing them to lose faith in themselves. Alas, no one is safe from them. Moreover, millions of people around the world encounter them every day, but they are not fatal for everyone. How to keep from losing faith in yourself?

Again, psychologists come to the rescue: they suggest following simple rules that were formulated after analyzing situations in which people managed not only to maintain a positive attitude, but also to emerge victorious, no matter what!

Did you know?

• Napoleon was short and his family had money problems. Because of this, he was constantly subjected to ridicule from his friends.
• Albert Einstein was considered by teachers to be mentally retarded, which greatly affected his certificate - he was a poor student.
• The world-famous Sony Corporation started out with rice cookers. The model turned out to be unsuccessful, and the rice there constantly burned, and therefore its founder suffered huge losses.
• Bill Gates was expelled from Harvard.
• One of the classics of English-language literature, Jack London, tried to publish his first book... 600 times! And I kept getting rejected.

This list can be continued endlessly. Hence the conclusion: failure is not a reason to give up, because working on mistakes can change people, bringing outsiders into leaders. Even if it’s very difficult, rest assured: what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and more self-confident!

What to do to maintain self-confidence, no matter what

• Remember that nothing lasts forever

According to legend, King Solomon, famous for his wisdom, had the text engraved on his ring: “Everything passes.” When it’s absolutely hard, and it seems that you and your personality are worth nothing - remember that downturns give way to ups!

• Don't let the world put you down

Do you know why there are so many people today who are successful but not happy? Because they are not achieving what they need! The media makes a person not a person, but a consumer. And in the pursuit of benefits, we begin to lose faith in ourselves.

“I can’t buy the latest iPhone,” you say sadly, feeling like a failure. Your neighbor Tatyana, having a treasured iPhone, is sad that there is not enough money for an apartment... And everyone forgets that the basic law of economics says: “Material human needs are insatiable.” Therefore, do not tie self-esteem to income level! Don't forget that many great people did not have wealth: Socrates, Diogenes, Eminem, Yesenin and many others. Therefore, wealth cannot in any way be an indicator of value for society!

• Surround yourself with like-minded people

You should not listen too much to the opinions of those who do not share your ideals - this will certainly lead to conflict with yourself and have a negative impact on self-esteem.

• Set your priorities right

It is impossible to achieve everything at once. Therefore, from time to time you need to stop and think: “What do I want to achieve? What can I sacrifice for this?”

• Don't ignore "working on mistakes"

If everything has already happened, it’s too late to do anything. But it’s never too late to realize your mistakes in order to avoid them in the future.

These tips are exactly what you need to do if you have lost faith in yourself.