“My Planet” talked to Lebanon about love and polygamy, hijabs and freedom of choice, old traditions and new times men of both sexes.

Lebanon is a small state in the Middle East with a complicated history, beautiful nature and friendly people. Located in the heart of the Arab world, it is distinguished by a huge variety of faiths (their number reaches 18, the most common being Islam and Christianity) and traditional worldview.

Education. Do atheists, Christians and Muslims have equal rights?

Diana: In most schools, girls belonging to different faiths study together. Non-Muslim women like me simply do not pass the Quranic exam. Nothing was forced on me.

There is a whole industry - getting Lebanese people married. People go to Cyprus and enter into a secular marriage according to its laws

There are no restrictions for girls at universities. If a girl wants to become an engineer, builder or electrician, the flag is in her hands. Many of my acquaintances, some of whom are Muslim, have studied engineering, and some work in their specialty.

Marriage. Who and how chooses who the girl will marry?

Diana: Getting married in Lebanon is difficult. It is easier for a woman to learn a specialty, find a job, and even engage in political activity than to choose a life partner. According to Lebanese law, you can only marry a representative of your religion. Theoretically, you can change your religion, but in practice no one does this.

There is a whole industry - getting Lebanese people married. People go to Cyprus and enter into a secular marriage according to its laws. For Christian women, everything is a little simpler, it seems to me - they meet young people at work or at university, enter into relationships, and get married. Although sex before marriage is not encouraged among Christians either.

According to my Sunni friend, preparing for a wedding is like buying a cow. The groom comes: “Yes, I saw you at a friend’s wedding, I really liked you. I work there, I can provide for you, I’m saving for an apartment. Tell about yourself"

For Muslim women and friends*, preparing for a wedding goes something like this. At other people's weddings, on the street, at university or at work, a guy meets a girl. If a guy likes a girl, he finds out who her parents are and sends his mother to them as a matchmaker. She finds out what and how, and if the girl doesn’t mind getting married, everyone comes to her together: the groom and his parents to get acquainted. (*Esoteric religion, which arose on the basis of Islam, but under the strong influence of ancient Greek philosophy, Neoplatonism and Hinduism, and Diana’s father is just a friend. - Ed.).

According to my Sunni friend, it’s like buying a cow. The groom comes: “Yes, I saw you at a friend’s wedding, I really liked you. I work there, I can provide for you, I’m saving for an apartment. Tell about yourself!" And the groom’s mother tries to find out how economical you are. Since this is almost the only way to get married, girls often agree. I don't know how happy they are in their marriage.

A couple of my cousins ​​dated guys and hid it and then they staged a similar ceremony for show. It looked something like this: “Yes, we knew each other, but I realized that I like you more than just as if you were my friend or friend,” etc. In short, you can choose your life partner yourself, but carefully, terribly encrypted.

Ali Kay

When I was 16 years old, my father did not allow me to go visit a guy I liked. Like, “It’s not customary for us for a girl to go to a guy’s house alone.” I was very unpleasant - I just wanted to give him a gift from Moscow, even though I liked him. And this is not my fanatical father. Over time, he began to “guard my honor” less, as I became more independent. 16 year olds get bullied more.

There are families beyond fanaticism— one girl I know who wears a hijab was punished for shaving her legs. The motive was as follows: “Who can see your legs?!” You undress in front of someone, you sleep with someone!” This, however, is rather an anomaly, but almost every Lebanese woman has to hide in her personal life. This is a complex topic.

Hussein: Nowadays girls are more likely to show independence in choosing grooms than before. But parental opinion is decisive. If the parents are against it, there will be no wedding. Sometimes young people go against the will of their elders and run away together. But we have a bad attitude towards this in Lebanon.

Polygamy: pros and cons

Hussain: Polygamy is rare now. Personally, I have a very bad attitude towards this.

Work by unmarried women (who most often live with their parents, otherwise “It’s a shame! We don’t know what she’s doing there alone!”) is considered as income that can be spent entirely on themselves

Diana: It seems that polygamy is becoming a thing of the past. Among Muslim girls you can hear condemningly: “Yes, he is a bigamist!” - always with the implication that this is disrespect for the first wife.

But such marriages still occur: we had a geography teacher, a Sunni Muslim, who, in addition to his first wife, an older woman, married a young woman. The Koran says that you can take a second (third, fourth) wife only if you treat them exactly the same. Naturally, this includes a financial aspect. What is especially interesting is that after this phrase the Koran says the following: “And you will not treat them the same.” That is, the Koran seems to allow it and say: “But you will all do it wrong.” My friend claims that this can be interpreted as an actual prohibition of polygamy. (My Planet wrote in the material how similar issues are resolved in neighboring Egypt.)

Work and career

Hussein: Many people work in cities, often in shops, schools, hospitals. In villages - much less often. My mother does not work, she takes care of the children and cooks very tasty dishes.

Diana: Most young women work. Work by unmarried women (who most often live with their parents, otherwise “Shame! Nobody knows what she’s doing there alone!”) is considered as income that can be spent entirely on themselves.

My unmarried friends most often save money and travel. Unmarried women from poor families help support the family. I have a friend who helps a widowed mother, another who helps a divorced writer mother. Poorer married women also help support their families.

Rich women work so they don't get bored. They often have housekeepers from poor countries (Bangladesh, Nepal, Ethiopia), practically powerless slaves, who do everything around the house. Thus, rich or middle-income women have enough time to work. Building a career/earning more than your husband is categorically discouraged.

Yemen, Iran, Saudi Arabia vs Lebanon: gender inequality

Hussein: Lebanon is not that conservative. Many women make careers - for example, there are female deputies in parliament. And no one is forced by law to wear a hijab, it is the choice of the parents.

There is a rule in the law: a rapist can escape punishment if he marries the victim. In this case, the victim must agree, but they are often forced by their families, because an unmarried non-virgin is a disgrace to the family

Diana: If you ask Lebanese people on the street about the role of men and the role of women, then the answers will most likely include very specific, clearly separated roles.

This is also legalized in religious rules of inheritance(women inherit less) and marriage (you can marry girls at 14, just like boys, but no one does this with the latter).

There is also a rule in the law: a rapist can avoid punishment if he marries the victim. The latter, for obvious reasons, would refuse the proposal, but in such a situation her relatives force her to marry: an unmarried non-virgin is a disgrace to the family.

Beirut women protest against violence law

Diana: A woman can build a career, but it is not encouraged. It is allowed to run a business, but male partners will look down on you. Disgusting sexism, of course, but, alas, it is still alive in many places.

Hijab is difficult to talk about. A woman will almost always say that it was her choice, but I think some people wear the hijab because of family pressure. I have a couple of Sunni friends who wear the hijab - they say they wear it by choice, and I believe them. (So, in a conversation with My Planet, an interviewee from Karachay-Cherkessia said that “hijab is more than just clothes, it’s a life position.”)

Another Shiite woman I knew was forced to she was a victim of domestic violence at the hands of a bigoted father, so I can't judge from her how symptomatic it is. We didn’t talk about this with the rest of my friends who wore hijabs. I'm always afraid that it will suddenly turn out that they were forced and I will only put them and myself in an awkward position.

Stop wearing hijab- is like admitting that you are not a very good Muslim, and almost no one does this.

Army: Israelis vs Lebanese

Diana: There is no compulsory military training in Lebanon In general, people join the army under a contract. Women do not serve in the army; they work at customs, in the police, at the border.

About Lebanese women in a nutshell. Is happiness possible?

Hussein: In a nutshell, good and cunning. As for happiness, it all depends on the parents: if they are not fools, we can say that Lebanese women are lucky.

Diana: It won’t work in a nutshell. There is a stereotype that Lebanese women are beautiful, well-groomed, with a good figure, love plastic surgery and do not strive to develop culturally. A kind of Barbie, only darker and with sharper facial features. This is most likely true, but full of exceptions. I know women - philosophers, talented architects and directors, writers and translators, intelligent, wonderful feminists and humanists.

A lot is changing in Lebanon right now. and women are changing a lot - issues of equality, gender, sexual orientation are largely raised by them, and more women are entering politics. This is really necessary in Lebanon; women have a lot to fight for. For example, there was no law on domestic violence - if a woman is beaten very seriously, in some cases, even if she dies from it, her husband can escape punishment. A movement formed around this problem, and in 2014 the law was passed. In general, Lebanese women are moving forward, and this is good.

Lebanese women and girls are famous for their attractive appearance and beautiful voices. Lebanese beauties took first places in prestigious international competitions: Miss Universe, Miss International and Miss Intercontinental.

Day.Az has compiled for you the top 15 most beautiful Lebanese women.

15. Rosarita Tawil- Lebanese model, winner of the title "Miss Lebanon 2008", represented Lebanon at the Miss World 2008 competition.

14. Rima Faki- Lebanese-American participant and winner of the Miss USA 2010 and Miss Michigan 2009 beauty pageants. Rima is believed to be the second Lebanese, first Arab, first Muslim and first immigrant to win the Miss USA title.

13. Gabriel Bou Rashid- Lebanese model and actress, Miss Lebanon 2005.

12. Jessica Kahawati- Australian model of Lebanese origin, winner of the title Second Vice-Miss of the international beauty contest "Miss World 2012". Winner of the Miss World Australia 2012 beauty pageant.

11. Nicole Saba- Lebanese pop singer and actress.

10. Sally Grage- "Miss Lebanon 2014".

9. Haifa Wehbe- Lebanese actress and singer, popular in the Middle East. Her father is a Lebanese Shiite and her mother is an Egyptian Christian.

8. Rina Shibani- "Miss Lebanon 2012".

7. Miriam Fares- Lebanese pop singer, sings in Arabic.

6. Lamitta Franjay- Lebanese model and actress, as well as 1st runner-up of Miss Lebanon 2004. At the Miss World 2005 competition she entered the Top 12.

5. Amar Al Tash- Lebanese singer.

4. Mona Abu Hamze- Lebanese TV presenter.

3. Barbara Turbay- took second place in the Miss Bogota (Universe) 2011-12 competition, won the Miss World Colombia 2012 competition.

Arab countries do not necessarily have to be hostage to the strict rules and customs that are accepted in Muslim societies. Life that follows rules written many centuries ago simply becomes uninteresting and boring. People do not live their own independent lives, but simply blindly follow the laws.

This is especially true for women who are forced to live as if their whole life consists of cleaning their husband’s house and raising his children. There is no time to visit your family and friends, there is no opportunity to have friends with whom you could meet from time to time and take a break from daily work.

In Lebanon it is much easier in this regard, because here you can feel the presence of other cultures that contribute to the life of the entire society. The predominance of French culture is of great importance here, so almost every person speaks two languages ​​- Arabic and French. Both languages ​​can be considered native languages ​​in this country.

Women in Lebanon have enough rights and freedoms, they can have a great time over a cup of coffee with their neighbors and girlfriends after sending their men to work in the morning. Lebanese women manage to do a huge number of chores around the house, take care of children, and still have free time to relax and gossip with their friends.

However, this applies to women who only do housework. Most women in Lebanon work and often hold quite senior positions.

Of course, as is customary in Muslim society, in Lebanon the man is the master of the house, who is charged with responsibilities for resolving all issues related to family and children. He is the main breadwinner in the family, and he is faced with the task of providing his wife and his children with everything they need.

Modern Lebanon is also an education for children, which all parents try to give to their children whenever possible, so that they can gain enough knowledge and get a good job.

There are educational opportunities, which increases the level of education in the country every year, because the Lebanese government is interested in providing the country with specialists.

It is very rare in Lebanon for children to live with their parents after starting their own family. The parents themselves do everything possible to provide their children with separate housing, where they can start an independent life.

Housing issues are dealt with by the groom's family, and the bride's parents must give expensive gifts, most often furniture and various utensils for the home and household. Plus, the bride also retains a dowry.

In the city and in the villages, Lebanese housing consists of three rooms, one of which is always used to receive guests. This may be the living room, but basically one room is left just for such moments when guests gather in the house on the occasion of any holidays or events.

Not every family, of course, has the opportunity to purchase a fairly large home, so for receiving guests, the kitchen or the largest room of the house or apartment is used. If there is not enough space to accommodate the guest, then he may be offered the place of the owner of the house if there is a need to leave the guest to spend the night.

Every Lebanese woman should be able to cook very well. As a result, a man, before getting married, must find out about the culinary abilities of his future wife. The groom's relatives may be invited to lunch or dinner, which the bride must prepare.

The birth of children in Lebanese families is celebrated very noisily and cheerfully, when a large number of people come to this event: friends, relatives, relatives and friends. Absolutely everyone brings gifts. Moreover, gifts for the child are brought within a month and a half and are mainly given as jewelry.

One and a half months is just enough for all the closest relatives, neighbors and friends to congratulate the parents on the birth of a child and give a gift to the baby himself. We can say that during this month and a half the child collects most of his dowry, because at this time it is customary to give expensive gifts.

In general, in Lebanon, on every holiday and every significant event, it is customary to give expensive gifts, which are, first of all, a tribute to the person for whom the gift is intended. Even if neighbors just come for lunch or dinner, or even for a conversation, then even then the owners of the house are presented with small souvenirs.

For the Lebanese, neighbors are no less close than relatives and friends. They live with the same neighbors almost all their lives and therefore they become very close indeed. For a Lebanese, offending a neighbor is the same as offending one of the family members and this can lead to serious conflicts.

The same applies to the moment when one of the family members is insulted by a stranger. In this case, a rather major quarrel may occur between members of two families, which will lead to long-term conflicts and quarrels.

The guest will always have the most honorable place at the table, and the best dishes will be served from the hands of the owner himself. Every home will have amazing Arabic coffee, which is famous for its taste all over the world.

Lebanese people are ready to communicate everywhere and are always very friendly. They know how to carry on a conversation, both men and women, which can drag on for a long time.

Rimma Akhmirova

Olga Dager is a Russian doctor. And a Lebanese wife. This is a fairly common combination in Beirut. 95% of the Russian diaspora in Lebanon are women who married Lebanese and moved to live in this Middle Eastern country. Most of the workers are doctors. Therefore, they saw the underside of all the Middle East messes of recent decades - and there have been two major wars in Lebanon in the last 25 years - with their own eyes.

“I have a typical story: in Soviet times, many Lebanese came to study with us in the Union and here they met their Russian classmates,” said Olga Dager. - While still a student, I married my Lebanese classmate, and when he graduated from graduate school, according to Soviet laws, he was not allowed to remain in the Union.

I went with him, although I knew what was going on in Lebanon then - it was the very height of the civil war, 1986. Bombings, shootings, dirt, devastation, broken roads. By profession, I am an anesthesiologist, I worked in the operating room of a prestigious Beirut clinic, where they brought the wounded with their arms and legs torn off... There were, of course, periods of calm when normal peaceful life went on for a day or two, a week, sometimes more. The Lebanese always took advantage of this opportunity - they ran straight to cafes, restaurants, shops, and beauty salons, which opened immediately. The Lebanese know how to enjoy life and are very attractive for this.

Lebanon is doomed to balance between peace and war: on the one hand, the country has unfriendly Israel, on the other, warring Syria. And throughout the East there were waves of the “Arab Spring” - regime changes, rallies, protests, local and major conflicts... In the relatively small Lebanon (total population of 4 million people) there is a fairly large Russian diaspora - only according to official statistics, at least 10 thousand people . Russia learned about the Russians in distant Lebanon in 2006, when the war with Israel began and every news release began with a story about a full-scale operation to rescue Russians from Lebanon. This was almost the first such successful operation.

They were able to take everyone who wanted it from Lebanon to Russia,” said Olga Dager. - I stayed with my family - we had somewhere to move from Beirut. But even then I got into the habit of keeping a suitcase at the doorstep, which contained everything I needed for a while to wait out the bombings in a safe place...

Russian Lebanese

Lebanese Russians for the most part are not like other emigrants. There are examples in Lebanon where immigrants from Russia not only do not live in poverty, but live in luxurious family castles and palaces. These are mainly descendants of Russians who moved here back in the 18th-19th centuries on the instructions of the Russian Tsar, who sent his envoys to Lebanon to help settle the Holy Land: Lebanon is the third most important country for Orthodox Christians.

The Lebanese remember what the Russians did for them 100 and 200 years ago,” Marina Sari Ad-Din, who teaches at a local university after moving from Russia to Lebanon, told Interlocutor. - The water supply system for Lebanon was developed by our compatriots - the Jordanov family, who have been working in high positions in the Ministry of Water Resources for many decades. There are many descendants of Russian officers who came here after 1917, they brought Russian balls and evenings into fashion.

They say that in Christian villages (half the population in Lebanon are Christians) there are still hanging portraits of the Russian Tsar Nicholas II, who in the 19th century helped the Lebanese free themselves from the yoke of the Ottoman Empire.

In the Russian diaspora of Lebanon, a quote from Georgy Serov, the grandson of the famous Russian artist Valentin Serov, who lives here, is in vogue: “I remained 100% Russian. But I became 100% Lebanese.”

Married to Hezbollah

In almost European Beirut, adapting is relatively simple: it’s easy to get used to Lebanese peculiarities - apartments on average 250 meters (they simply don’t build smaller ones here), the presence of house helpers even in poor families, the absolutely chaotic traffic of expensive cars (the Lebanese have a thing for prestigious auto) and the habit of Lebanese women to have breakfast together to discuss purely feminine matters - fashion, style, shopping. But in the south of Lebanon life is completely different. This is a Shiite region with a religious structure, where women are wrapped in hijabs, and laws are established by a parallel state within a state - the Islamic party Hezbollah. Foreign journalists have dubbed this part of Lebanon Hezbollah Land.

I met my future husband on the Internet, then we met when he came to Moscow,” Lena told me, in whom it is almost impossible to recognize a former Muscovite. “He mentioned that he was involved in politics, but I didn’t understand what exactly. It turned out that he is a member of Hezbollah.

Lena does not mention this word when communicating with family and friends in Moscow:

They had a hard time coming to terms with my hijab (my husband’s requirement), but my husband is from an organization that half the world considers terrorist - they definitely won’t understand this...

In the Bekaa Valley, where Lena's new family lives, Hezbollah has real power. Initially, the underground party grew stronger after the military conflict with Israel, when it took over all the fighting and was even able to eventually win. Lebanon as a state does not have a regular army. Now Hezbollah has a significant number of seats in parliament and funding from almost all countries of the “anti-Israel club.”

Lena is already accustomed to the fact that her husband periodically leaves for three-day military training (mandatory preparation in case of a possible war) and pays contributions to Hezbollah from the family budget.

The peculiarity of Lebanon is that in a small area it contains all the main faiths of the world - 17 in total: Muslims, Christians, Druze... Belonging to a religious denomination and political party means a lot in Lebanon, and it can be difficult for Russian women to adapt to this, - Svetlana Safa, Chairman of the Coordination Council of Compatriots Living in Lebanon, told Interlocutor. - My husband is a Druze, this is almost the most closed religion in the world, about which I, having lived for 25 years in Lebanon in a Druze family, know little: not everyone is initiated into the religion.

The Lebanese passion for uniting in groups was also passed on to the Russians living here - in a small country there are as many as eight Russian associations - by age, gender, professions, and so on... And the creation of another club is approaching, to some extent uniting: “Russian Family” - new generation" - for children from Russian-Lebanese families.

There are many such children - 3-4 per family. They have Lebanese patriotism, love of life and ambition and Russian wisdom and perseverance,” summarized Svetlana Safa. - In general, we consider it a successful combination of the features of two countries - Russia and Lebanon...

Moscow-Beirut-Moscow

Probably every second girl who has visited hot countries once had an affair with an Arab.
Whether this is good or bad, I don’t presume to judge, but those who swam will understand me.
Some girls returned from this voyage with a broken heart, while others caught their firebird, adapted to a foreign culture, found compromises and began to live with their beloved in the thirtieth Arab kingdom.
I apologize in advance for my sometimes unnormative and somewhat rude approach to this subject. I would divide all Arabs into two categories.
Firstly, for the category of cheap resort limiters from Sharmalsheikhs, Hurghada and Kemer (sorry, the Turks were also targeted): animators, restaurateurs, hoteliers, sellers of smelly Arab perfumes. Let's not ignore the Liban women from Beirut and surrounding zhnubs (villages), blue-eyed Syrians, poor Jordanians and Palestinians with travel permits instead of passports, and, of course, Egyptians - kulu tamaam!
After studying at local colleges, they left their Cairos and Tripolis to conquer more developed Arab countries, where they successfully found work as salesmen in shopping centers, or as middle managers in Arab companies. They have made numerous friends, exclusively from their own countries, and regularly go on safari with a large Egyptian shob, taking with them a hookah and pickled kafta.
Libanashki, who represent high fashion, have settled down in a similar way. , as salespeople from Zara and department seniors at Massimo Duti. These people regularly go into debt, buying cars and fashionable rags, because for a Lebanese there is nothing more important than a gelled hairstyle and the awareness of one’s own coolness. They know how to present themselves, which exponentially increases their rating in the eyes of blond foreigners. After acquiring all of the above, there is no more money left for living, so they basically rent an apartment by sharing money with their neighbors. They rarely go to the mosque and mostly hang out in fashionable clubs, like Cavalli, all night with one drink in their hands (they get drunk before leaving, mixing vodka with red bull in their apartment), then, heavily scented with cologne, and rolling up their sleeves on a shirt up to the three-quarter level, they are sent out into the world in twos or the whole noisy company.
All of them: Egyptians, Lebanese, Syrians, etc. of the first category are united by the lack of money, the desire to have a nice rest and a violent sexual temperament.
They earn little, but spend a lot, mostly on themselves , money is often short, so they do not hesitate to borrow from their faithful friends, and often forget to repay debts. In spite of everything, they manage to keep warm-hearted girls near them for a long time, and the whole secret is that they perfectly know how to hang noodles, look after them beautifully, shower them with compliments, and last but not least, oh how fucking good they are in bed. They are not at all disfigured by intellect, because most of them, except for paragraphs of the Koran and the magazine Ahlan, have never read anything.
They will spend another year sailing abroad and one day my mother will call from Syria with the words: “Hamudi, ya amar, habibi” and say that it’s time to get married. And he will rush off to Damascus for the first date with the bride, after which there will be matchmaking and a magnificent Arab wedding.
He will return all in tears, hug Natasha, repent of what he has done, saying he is not guilty - the will of the mother. Meanwhile, the little wife is not bad-looking, prepares excellent mlukhiya and will be able to raise future offspring according to the laws of Islam.

And we will return to the second category of arabesques , to those from wealthy families. As a rule, they graduated from prestigious universities, most even in America and Canada, and sometimes received new citizenship. They hold good positions in large foreign companies, they are fun and have a lot to talk about. Arabs from different countries rarely make friends with each other and fill their circle with university friends or distant relatives. They, Egyptians, Lebanese, Syrians, Emiratis... openly dislike each other and rarely become friends. They have money, so they are more often in society and they are more picky than the first category. Just so you know, these also mostly marry their own people, but exceptions are more common here, since their families are usually more open and more often approve of their children’s choice to connect their lives with a foreigner.
Being with an Arab is not easy and you must always take into account the existing cultural differences, especially if you come across a Muslim Arabesque.
Important points - attachment to his mother, his mother will always be the first woman in his life, the unequal position of men and women, what is allowed to a man, a woman can only dream of. Personally, I am touched by the fact that even their own women (the same arabesques) are often unable to cope with Arabian horses, and they continue to hang around in the flesh until old age sets in or the Hajj occurs (preferably in old age), otherwise and he won't change anything.
I had lunch yesterday with a client of mine who has turned into a good friend. I remember when he returned from Mecca last year, he swore that everything had changed and he was neither to his wife’s left, but his period of asceticism did not last long. Yesterday he again started talking about his past and present loves. I couldn’t stand it and asked him, they say, why are you Doctor Ayash, Arabs, wandering around like that and your marriages are somehow inferior. His point of view was that they marry mostly without falling in love and without having time to get to know their soulmate well. Women, in turn, before marriage do everything to please a man, but after marriage they lose interest in their husband and perceive him solely as a source of security and well-being, but the broad Arab soul wants love.
But another incident prompted me to write this post. An example of the promiscuity and lustfulness of Arabs of the first category, when they do not care who to look after , and they bombard you with messages and harassment not because of special sympathy, but rather because your number was saved in their address book.
So on Saturday a similar specimen became attached to me and pulled me out of the ground, as they say. We met at work more than a year ago, met twice on business matters, he kept holding out his sweaty palms for a handshake, as I remember with a wedding ring on his ring finger. And then, as they say, not even two years have passed, he began to joke to me: how long have you been working as a business, a bunch of other things, and in the end - let's meet - let's get to know each other better, I want us to become friends. Well, don't fuck your mother, what a meeting! At first, I explained to him civilly, as best I could, that I was not interested in his friendship, and that all my evenings were busy, if there was something to do with work, come, dear, to the office. If I wasn’t a client, I would have sent it a long time ago. He still didn’t recognize my signals, he thought that I was breaking down, and the next day let’s do it again. At this point, of course, I got really angry and I expressed my opinion. Got rid of it.
This is the most striking example of a cheap Arab who doesn’t care who gets bullied, but is not interested in whether I’m free or whether I need it at all! At the same time, he is so stupid that he does not doubt for a minute the attractiveness of his proposal.
Regarding the Arabs of the second category, I also have something to say. I had three in total; the first romance, as expected, happened at a resort in the well-known Sharm El-Sheikh. That means I met an Egyptian, although he was not an animator, but the owner of 5 local hotels. Oh, girls, how he went over the head, of all the Arabs, only the Egyptians are capable of this, he said that he was divorced (resort Egypt is generally a valley of free men, no matter where you rush, everyone is not married). As a result, I conquered it, and monthly flights to Sharm el-Sheikh and back began, I took my girlfriends with me to make it more fun. How we hung out there (naturally, it was all inclusive on his part), then he met a new love and the monthly vacation on the Red Sea stopped.
The second was a local, from the Emirates, the affair lasted almost a week, and it happened purely out of nothing to do. Everything stopped the moment I saw him in a kandura (white dress); before that, he had only appeared on dates in European clothes. I felt completely uneasy about “what will people say”, and in general how is it between me and HE? The question always came down to the kondura, I remembered this white robe, and I gave up and didn’t want anything anymore. I still don’t understand what caused such an unhealthy subconscious reaction. I left him, and he probably still has the same opinion about me as I do about the Arabs)).
And finally, the third final episode, the Canadian Canadian. He won me over because he never lied, couldn’t flirt at all, didn’t use hair gel, and wore Converse sneakers. Oh, I forgot, after a week of dating, he brought me to meet my mother, which shocked both of us, since it was a complete surprise for us.
This concludes my scientific work. I hasten to note that all of the above is my subjective opinion, and may not coincide with the opinions of others, and please do not forget about happy exceptions (I am an optimist).