Even the most positive and optimistic individuals sometimes feel like they give up: things don’t work out anywhere - on the personal front, at work, with friends... There is only despair and nothing more. What to do if everything in life is bad? Just be, and the rest will work out.
A few thoughts to support you
If everything is bad in your life, “what to do” should become the second question. But first you need to change your thinking a little and support yourself.
Pain is only part of growth
If the door has closed in front of you, it’s time to move forward. Many people do not start moving until circumstances force them to. Here they are! Move!
By the way, about pain. In some Chinese martial arts schools, children deliberately tear ligaments during stretching. The pain is intense, but then it’s easier to do the splits.
This too shall pass
There is no need to quote the great king. Just don't think that the night will never end in the morning and the wound will always hurt. This doesn't happen!
Live in the moment when everything is great with you, and if you have no idea what to do if everything is bad in life.
Complaining and worrying won't change anything
No comments. Do not deprive yourself of the strength that can be used to resolve your problems.
All scars are only a symbol of strength
They show that you have survived an ordeal. The current wound will definitely heal with a scar. Don't let them hold you hostage and let them live in fear. This is a sign of triumph.
Any struggle you have is a step forward. If you have to fight what is bad, you move to where it will be better.
Bad people are not your problem
If they are trying to destroy or defeat you, smile! This way you will save yourself, which is important if you are surrounded by not the most decent or evil people. Be yourself even if someone says bad things about you. Don't let anyone break you and change you. The environment changes (and you are not always the one who attracts it), but you are with you forever.
Something needs to be let go
You need this in order to continue your journey. Even if everything falls out of hand, move on and don’t be afraid to get angry, love again, or make mistakes. In any case, the Universe is right and for some reason this “everything is bad” was given to you: everything is smooth and calm only in the coffin, but you won’t feel it anymore.
What to do?
Thinking correctly is the beginning of the journey. But what to do if everything is bad?
Sorting out problems
You can even make a list of everything that is bad: the name of the problem, the essence, how to solve it and whether it can be solved at all. Some things can be left without a decision, since they only need to be accepted. And some problems have two or more solutions. Something will take years to resolve, but if your favorite coat is torn, you can deal with it in a few days.
When everything is really bad and your hands have fallen, it is difficult to connect logic, but it is better to do just that, rather than complain and worry.
Play some sports
The formula for success here is simple. Firstly, exercise will help cope with stress, and secondly, problems can resolve while you work on yourself. And you will enter your new life with a beautiful and healthy body.
Don't go all out
Some people think that when everything is bad, you need to have drinking parties and partying. This will not make your life better: troubles will not go away, but comrades will come to them: poor health, hangover and lack of money. For girls, damaged skin and extra pounds will be a special bonus. But once in a while, taking something extra with a true friend can even be useful...
Don't hide your negative emotions
Of course, there is no point in constantly complaining and grief cannot always be helped with tears, but you need to let off steam and negativity, no matter how you were raised... Yes, you can roar, scream and break down (even at those closest to you), break cups. And not just once, but as many times as required in your situation. You can also start a whole notebook to drain negative emotions. The main thing is that this does not enter the system, like the mentioned alcohol. But cherishing your anger, resentment and other dirty tricks is prohibited!
Don't be afraid to cry out for help
And it’s not just about helping “our own” or influential people. If necessary, visit a priest, a psychotherapist, a spiritual mentor... Someone who can cure you... In general, do not be afraid of communication during difficult periods. You understand that you can share your troubles with someone. But if you close yourself in, you will also close your grief inside.
Think (and say) only good things
You can dream about good things and then they can also materialize. You shouldn’t live with the idea that the status quo (that is, everything that happens today) is forever and you will die alone, unloved and in a torn coat. No matter how you remember the joke about a man who only thought badly about everything, and a guardian angel sat behind him and wrote it all down: the boss is a brute, the wife is a fool, etc. Thoughts, make the right orders and requests to higher powers. The same goes for conversations. Do not support negative topics that colleagues, friends or neighbors love to discuss - you have your own opinion.
Love
This feeling always lifts you up. Do good deeds in the name of the people you love and life will change for the better. If you don’t have half, you still have someone to love: friends or relatives, an animal. And finally, even the most difficult situations in life should not give you a reason to stop loving yourself. Just love yourself even if your husband left, your coat was torn and your boss sawed you off. The universe will change its attitude towards you only if you love yourself.
Life is not always colorful and happy; there are moments when even an optimist gives up. Around you it seems that everyone is against you - loved ones, strangers, bosses, even nature is crying with you like pouring rain. There is a feeling that it can’t get any worse than it is. What to do in such a situation? First of all, calm down, figure it out, maybe you’re just screwing yourself up.
Is it possible to cope with your emotions?
Every person has a changeable mood. Sometimes we ourselves cannot figure out why it happened exactly the way it did. You need to be patient here! Not all days are good. It’s not for nothing that they say that life is an alternation of white and black stripes. But if you think about it, life is actually a chessboard, everything depends on the right move.
Did you get up in the morning and everything started to fall out of your hands? Do calming breathing exercises that will put your thoughts in order and tune into a positive mood.
Often the cause of a bad mood, apathy, is idleness. Sometimes you get bored and don’t know what to do with yourself. I'm tired of the computer, and so is the TV. Tell yourself “stop”! Why are you living and wasting your time? Do something useful.
Many women on maternity leave constantly lash out at their husbands in the evening because they are bored sitting at home all day. As a result, it disappears and problems arise in relationships. Haven’t you tried to occupy yourself with something interesting, try to develop, do what you like? Some women immediately find an excuse: “I have a small child!” So what? Life does not end here, but only begins. If you set an example that you are constantly working and actively moving, your children will grow up purposeful and active.
Almost all experts say: “ It’s bad for those who don’t want to do anything to make things good. You can never give up. Life is a struggle, a kind of overcoming of obstacles.”. Take advantage of these valuable tips.
Think about something good
This is often where all the problems arise. Don’t escalate the situation; you don’t need to constantly convince yourself that bad things will happen. Remember a good moment in your life or dream about something pleasant. It will feel easier immediately.
Smile
Are you depressed or sad? Go to the mirror, look into it and smile. You are beautiful, a bad mood is not good for you, so get rid of it.
Appreciate what you have
Many people are selfish; they demand unknown things from others. The mistake is that egoists do not value what they have and want to conquer heights. Dreams and aspirations are good, but sometimes you need to come down to earth and think about the loved ones you are hurting. Some people can easily lose love and friendship; at first they think that there is nothing wrong with it. And then they realize the mistake, and it is no longer possible to return the person.
This doesn't just happen to people. Let's give a simple example: you dream about something for a very long time, wait for it, and when it comes true, everything is not as you wanted. As a result, there is emptiness in the soul, a feeling of anxiety and apathy appears. This feeling is often encountered by people who have... They constantly want to achieve their goal, but achieving the goal does not bring them joy.
Remember! Rejoice in the real thing, and not in the illusory, invented. Dream, but don't forget about real life.
Adhere to the principle: “Everything that is done is only for the better.”
Having problems? Try to model the situation differently. If this happens, then it must be experienced. Don’t immediately panic, tear your hair out, or try to change something. Just calm down, wait, maybe you need to rest, and after a while you will laugh at your problems.
How to get out of a deadlock?
First of all, remember that “night always ends and day comes.” Learn to endure all trials, be wise. Experienced psychotherapists pay attention to the following methods:
- Get your life in order. Get rid of everything that brings you discomfort. Tired of constantly repairing your sideboard? Throw it away and buy a new one. Worried about getting wet and ruining your hairstyle? Call a taxi. Are you constantly quarreling with your husband or wife, the relationship does not bring joy, it only torments you? Think about divorce. Remember, the end is always the beginning of a new life.
- Don't give up. Some people think that the way out of the situation is to get drunk, get high, use stimulants, or party all night in a nightclub. Why rush headlong into the pool? Always remember that drugs are temporary happiness, which later leads to dangerous consequences.
- Join the gym . Throw out all negative energy during physical activity. In addition to improving your mood, you will look great, and this will give you confidence in life.
- Try to do good, it will definitely come back to you . If something is constantly going wrong for you, you haven’t thought about the fact that you hurt someone or made a mistake.
- Get rid of negative emotions . You can go far into nature and scream with all your might. If it’s very bad, cry, all the emotional pain will come out with tears. Write about all your problems and then burn the paper.
Can’t cope with yourself on your own, have you fallen into deep depression? Contact a psychotherapist, he will help you find a way out of the situation. You may need to take sedatives for a while. For example, tincture of valerian and motherwort is often prescribed. But you shouldn’t get carried away with antidepressants and tranquilizers - they only make the situation worse.
Are you sitting and thinking, why is everything so bad? Look around, maybe someone has it much worse, and you just came up with your own tragedies. Learn to calmly accept all life's troubles, don't give up, always fight to the end. The main thing is not to succumb to various temptations and negative influences. In any situation, remain yourself. Be happy, enjoy life and don’t pay attention to various little things!
Lots of problems
Hello, dear blog readers. The topic of today's post is the fight against problems, depression, and the right attitude towards life. Yes, of course, I did not become a psychologist or psychotherapist. Don't be alarmed.
I heard this information a few months ago at one of the youth business seminars. I will give a link to it at the end of this post, I highly recommend watching the material in full. There will be only a part in the article. The one that I have implemented and continue to use in my life.
By the way, I listened to this webinar at night, probably three hours. It was worth it. It's not just me who thinks so.
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What to do when there are a lot of problems: the main secret
We need to stop here. And think about it. Think about how important these problems are to you. Most often, these are little things, small conflicts on which we spend, well, just a lot of our energy. These are banal everyday quarrels with relatives, work colleagues, a bad mood in the morning, an argument and defending one’s position.
Are these problems, their solutions, nerves and emotions an important part of our lives? No, not ours - YOUR LIFE.
As I listened to Asimov that night, I began to think. But really, we spend most of our time, most of our lives on these very trifles, trifles, sorting out relationships, we are always dissatisfied, always in a hurry to get somewhere.
Too many problems: solution
The solution to all problems lies in one simple thing. Understand their classification, analyze how important it is for you that this morning your foot was stepped on on the bus, your wages were delayed for a day, the coffee was not as tasty as usual, the waiter was rude...
Traffic light problems
All problems, problems, situations in our life can be classified according to the traffic light principle and live in accordance with this principle.
Stop, slowly, re-read this classification several times. And pay special attention to the output.
- Red problem . This is the death of relatives, friends, the departure of a person very close to you. A fatal, incurable disease when there is no chance.
- Yellow problem . This includes disability, a serious accident and physical injuries, but the person survived. Loss of business, divorce.
- Green problem . This is a job loss, a very difficult financial situation. My beloved girl/boyfriend left, betrayal.
Everything else is simple Should NOT bother you.
Agree, we think about our lives in difficult moments: the death of someone, a great loss, a difficult, seemingly hopeless situation. Then we understand how petty and insignificant everyday problems are.
This is how small, a little philosophical this post turned out to be. Hope it was helpful to you.
There is one simple answer to the question “What to do when everything is bad” - enjoy the moment, so as not to miss it later, because soon the crisis will pass and a bright streak will come! But seriously, in order for the gloomy clouds overhead to disperse, it is enough to take simple 9 steps, the effectiveness of which has been tested by time.
Need specifics
Many of us have a well-developed ability to exaggerate. To do this, many use a technique known from literary theory as hyperbole. Its meaning is deliberate exaggeration to enhance effect, emotional enhancement, and so on. Most often, under the phrase “everything is bad” there is an exaggerated “something specific.”
In other words, these are certain moments or situations on which the general condition of a person depends. It is advisable to find them. To do this, you need a piece of paper and a pen that will “endure” everything bad. Most likely, from the first line it will turn out that there are not so many reasons for depression.
But those reasons that exist and are specifically defined have created the effect of a snowball that impudently fell on tired shoulders. If the same question has been ringing in your head for a long time: “What to do when it’s very bad?”, it is advisable to start resolving the current situation right now. Which, in fact, is already happening.
Negative overboard
In order to cope with the surging problems, you need at least enthusiasm and desire. But where do they come from when everything has been “eaten up” by the “what to do” state? To change the situation, you will have to gather the last drops of strength and throw them into a healing activity, which is different for everyone.
This could be going to the bathhouse, cycling, skating, jumping on trampolines, in general, anything that will get rid of the negative, replacing it with the positive. The main thing is to get physically tired, throw out your emotions by screaming or laughing, and also switch. It’s worth it, because what’s at stake is your overall emotional state. It is this that determines our readiness to fight for things to improve. Don’t forget that a healthy mind is in a healthy body, so delicious food and good sleep are exactly what the doctor ordered.
Black humor
Sometimes black humor and self-irony remain underestimated helpers in the fight against depression, but much is known about their healing properties in the world of modern psychotherapy. Perhaps it is worth thinking about what is “missing” for a complete picture of hopelessness. After all, it can always be worse. Laughing at yourself, and this is considered a sign of a strong personality, not only lifts your spirits, scaring away the snowball of failures, but also reminds you that everything is really not as bad as it can be.
If it’s hard for you to find a reason to laugh, then it’s time to go to the movies, but only to see a comedy. Movies are therapeutic, so choose something incredibly explosive.
Algorithm of actions
When the negative emotions have gone away a little, it’s time to return to the “black” list. Opposite each item that “poisons lives” you can write detailed instructions on how to provide yourself with emergency medical care. That is, think through your actions, the so-called ways to overcome the problems that have arisen, in order to clearly determine for yourself what to do if everything is bad.
The main thing is not to look for global and sophisticated solutions, but to find affordable and simple options that are easy to take.
General cleaning
It is worth admitting that rarely does anyone have perfect order in all areas of life. Many different things have been put off for years in a long box of immense size. Now is the time to carry out an audit of this “long drawer”, thereby doing a general cleaning in it.
If you are passionate about doing something, improvements will begin imperceptibly in at least one area of your life. Decorating furniture, traveling to distant relatives, replanting flowers will be a good reason for global vital reforms.
Equilibrium as an axiom
Many scientists from different fields agree that everything is balanced in the world. If it disappears somewhere, it soon appears in another place. So, in every unpleasant situation there is a second side to the coin, on which a rainbow is painted in bright colors; you just need to see it.
- Is your dress torn? There was an opportunity to update the style by altering it in the workshop.
- Fired from your job? It's time to take a break and find something more worthwhile.
- Has your husband (wife) left? Serves him right, but a new life begins for me!
Healing Humility
Sometimes people, hastily searching for what to do when everything is bad, need to calm down and stop doing anything at all. There are things that do not depend on us. Naturally, for those who are accustomed to controlling their own destiny, it is quite difficult to come to terms with such a statement. But no one can predict illness, accident or the loss of a loved one.
It is important to try to forgive your fate, accepting its “gifts” with humility and gratitude. This is difficult, but effective, because a little humility and understanding attracts love, and anger and resentment attract hatred.
Good deed
If we don’t know what to do when everything is bad, then the whole world seems unfair, spoiled, embittered. If gray, gloomy weather is added to the dejected mood, then a meeting with apathy is guaranteed. To warm yourself up by helping good defeat evil, you can do something good for another person.
This could be anything: a charity dinner, gifts for children with special needs, visiting a sick person, and so on. As a result, it turns out that this helped ourselves first of all, because sincere gratitude from others heals, over time returning goodness threefold. And the ability to share and sacrifice leads to a mature alignment of priorities and values. It’s not without reason that they say that the hand of the giver will never fail.
Looking in the mirror
If, after some time, the situation has not improved, but only worsened, moving into the chronic stage of losing on all fronts, then it is time to use heavy artillery. It is a critical self-analysis of one’s actions and behavior. A psychologist, spiritual mentor, or other person with good life experience will help you cope with this.
It’s worth asking yourself questions: “What did I do wrong?”, “How do I respond to other people’s requests?”, “How do I feel about fulfilling my duties?” The main thing is to remain honest with yourself. Only under this condition can you see yourself from the outside. Having determined which behavior pattern attracts trouble, breaking the chain of failures will become much easier.
These 9 steps were created for a person who is tormented by the question “What to do when everything is bad?” Each step is a small hint leading to the answer. Those who have decided to act, grow and change their life for the better can use them. Perhaps there are those in your circle who need advice at this moment. Share this post with them to help cope with the cloud of problems flying at their heads and prevent the onset of the Ice Age.
How pleasant it is to open your eyes, stretch out in a warm bed, look out the window at the sunlit sky, greenery and yard, drink delicious aromatic tea and start a wonderful day. And then everything works out. Then the Soul itself rejoices and problems are just tasks, grievances are trifles not worth attention, and loved ones are the most wonderful people. And here it is happiness - there is joy inside, things are going smoothly, and everything around is working out in the best way.
Unfortunately, this is not always the case. I think many have encountered a special condition that pushes the joys of life out of reach. This condition is often called a heart stone. It is burdensome and it seems that the world is shrinking into problems from which it is impossible to escape. And then an unpleasant dream leaves a sediment for the whole coming day, every little thing irritates and develops into nervous tension, and maybe a scandal. At such moments, even the most favorite food loses its taste, and loved ones seem so distant and alien that everything inside shrinks even more. People who perceive the world through emotions, sensations and internal states are especially susceptible to this condition. It is difficult for them to switch gears and get rid of the wave of unpleasant emotions that has rolled in. It is also difficult because you need to throw it out not from your head, but from your body and heart.
I am writing about this with knowledge of the matter, because... like that myself. Yes, increased sensitivity has not only advantages, but also disadvantages. I will write to you how I cope with such conditions. Perhaps some of the above will be useful to you too.
Walk. If you feel like curling up inside a ball and lying there for a long, long time, try to pull yourself together and go outside. Go where your feet take you. This will help switch your body from one state to another. This way, you yourself will be a little distracted. Especially if you listen to or hum a song at the same time. This will work better if you walk in a safe area and during daylight hours. If you have the opportunity, it is best to take a walk in nature. No need to log kilometers. You can just walk aimlessly for 15 minutes in one direction, then turn around and go home.
Music. Sometimes you need to fully enjoy a state in order to let it go. And if only sad songs come to your mind, I would not rush to drive them away. But here you always need a golden mean. Therefore, after sadness and sadness in the songs, you will move on to dynamic and lighter compositions. This will be what you need. Especially if you switch to music that will make your body dance. Dancing, movement, relaxation and contraction of muscles is another chance to release tension in the body through movement and switch the internal state. You can give preference to mantras, classical or instrumental music. It's up to your taste. In any case, I recommend experimenting in this direction. Regarding songs, music and mantras, see what resonates in you, what is close to you at the moment. Do not force yourself under any circumstances. The important thing here is to enjoy the process.
Smells. You can, of course, smoke a person out of his depressive state with the help of something smelly. But it's so radical that it might not work. I would recommend aromatherapy techniques, when a person’s state is switched with the help of one or another smell. For example, orange oil gives joy verbena- tones, mint - calms down. You can wear an aroma pendant, you can soak cotton wool and put it on your pillow, you can add a couple of drops to a humidifier or aroma lamp.
Here are a few recipes to help you switch to a harmonious emotional state:
Calm harmonious state:
- Valerian - 4 drops.
- Ylang-ylang - 3 drops.
- Lavender - 3 drops.
Joy of life:
- Verbena - 3 drops.
- Ylang-ylang - 6 drops.
Relaxation and tranquility:
- Sandalwood - 4 drops.
- Bergamot - 3 drops.
Smoking herbs, pieces of wood and resins. Thyme, sage, oregano, Juniper is considered sacred in many magical traditions. They help stop the internal dialogue and calm emotions, thereby switching the emotional state. Take any of the listed plants in dry form. Take an iron tray or iron plate at least 15 cm in diameter. Carefully light the dry plant. Sit nearby, inhaling the smoke. If you received the herbs in crushed form, you can light them using incense charcoal, the kind you can buy in a church shop. You can also buy it there myrrh and frankincense. It is ideal if you take natural resins without additives. Their smoke also cleanses and pacifies the body and Soul.
Drink. To calm down and get rid of the chilling state from your thoughts, heart and body, it’s good druid tea. He's the same Phu. You will need: valerian root and a pinch (to taste) of lemon balm or mint. Wash the valerian root, put it in a teapot and fill it halfway with boiling water. Let it brew for 15 minutes. Add lemon balm and top up the kettle with boiling water. Let it brew for another 10-15 minutes.
To cheer up and awaken your inner fire, brew yourself ginger tea . Grate a spoonful of fresh ginger, add a slice of orange and a few sprigs of mint, pour boiling water over everything. Ingredients can be increased or decreased according to your taste.
Creation. When such a person is not nearby, you can write everything down on paper or canvas. Clay, plasticine and other similar materials capture emotions very well. If you have the opportunity to plant something for fun, don't limit yourself to it. I'm cooking I don't recommend it, because then your entire family will eat your unpleasant state. But you can make it from wood or any other material within your control (even on cardboard) scattering spiral(twisting counterclockwise). It can be worn around your neck or in your pocket. Ideally, it will be in contact with the body. This way your unpleasant state will dissipate.
Stones. Make friends from the mineral world. They are not flighty and are quite constant in their choice. Therefore, if a stone chooses you, this is a fruitful union for many years. Here are a few options for stones that will help you release the burden from your Soul and breathe deeply:
Turquoise- in the old days it was considered an exclusively male stone. It is a symbol of good luck, prosperity and victory. Turquoise is a good amulet for brave people, whose lives are often interspersed with dangers.
Jet- a talisman against dark forces. It absorbs the pain, negative emotions and fears of the person wearing the jet. It also absorbs the bad thoughts of ill-wishers. Jet placed under the pillow protects against nightmares.
Kyanite- has a general tonic effect on the body, helps to better circulate energy through energy centers. They have a calming effect on the nervous system.
Malachite- removes energy blocks in the body if applied to them. Improves energy flow throughout the body. Relieves emotional stress. Creates physical and emotional harmony, absorbs negative energy.
Obsidian- saves a person from rash and dangerous actions. Helps you face life's changes with confidence. This stone can cleanse away negativity.
Tourmaline- removes fears and anxieties. Helps to believe in one’s own strength, gives a feeling of security and helps to believe in one’s own strength.
Unakit- helps to achieve harmony between body and spirit, mind and emotions. Helps you live in the present, lifts your spirits, and removes sadness.
You can choose one of the listed stones for yourself. But, if you trust your own intuition, then my favorite method of choosing a stone will suit you. When leaving the house, think about the goal - I want to buy a stone that will help me... And here there may be options for what it will help, for example, get out of a depressive state, strengthen the will, achieve a goal, etc. With this thought in mind, come to a place where stones are sold. Mentally ask the question: “Which stone will help me in…”. Now go and choose. See it, pick it up, feel it. Trust your feelings. The stone that you like, the one that becomes warm in your hands or somehow responds to you internally - that is the stone that you are looking for. On this journey for the stone, you may need information on how to negotiate with the Spirit of the place. And when you have a suitable stone, you can negotiate with the Spirit of the Stone (read about how to do this in the article “My Stone is a Talisman” on the Magician portal). Of course, the stone will already provide energy, but by making an agreement with the Spirit of the stone, the result will be stronger.
As for how to wear stones, it is good to wear them in beads, rosaries (if you have the habit of carrying rosaries in your hands), in a pendant, or bracelet. Those. so that the stone is in contact with the body. This way the connection will be stronger and the effect of wearing the stone will also be stronger. Unfortunately, often the stone in a modern ring or earrings does not touch the skin. Therefore the connection will not be as strong. If you take one large stone, you can carry it in your pocket and pick it up when you feel the need for it. As for the stone on the keychain, if you constantly carry it with you on your bag or keys, it can get bumped and deteriorate, which means your relationships will deteriorate, and its beneficial influence on your life will decrease.
All of these techniques will switch your state to one in which it will be much easier to cope with the task facing you. Remember, the stronger a person, the more difficult the tasks Heaven sets for him. And you are able to cope with what is sent down to you. May Heaven help you in this, guiding you along the Path of Truth, Order, Justice and Peace. Let there be more pleasant moments, bright colors and happy days in your life.
