If women's tears have not surprised anyone for a long time, then crying man can rarely be seen. Relentless statistics show that men do not live long, and perhaps one of the reasons for this extremely sad fact is that they do not have the moral right to cry.

In fact, men also cry, but much less often and without making it public and not even showing it to their closest and dearest people. As a rule, a man cries, hiding away from the whole world so that no one can see his rare but heavy tears.

So mother nature ordered that the male sex experiences all the events of his life deep in his soul. But this does not mean that they experience less pain when they lose loved ones and loved ones or less happiness when they have a long-awaited heir. Numerous experiments have shown that men's experiences are deeper and more expressive than women's (superficial), which means that men experience grief and misfortune much longer and stronger.

Why do men cry?

But what can make a real man cry? Undoubtedly, losing your favorite football team or suddenly running out of beer in the refrigerator is by no means a reason to shed a tear. Unlike the average woman who can cry heartily over a torn stocking or a broken fingernail, a man needs a really good reason to cry. Death, breakup or sincere tears of happiness due to the fact that a dream has come true - these are the drives that can make a person shed a tear.

Even real men cry in the war, losing their bosom friends and colleagues, and at the obelisks, remembering all past horrors and suffering bitterly from the fact that young years have passed without bringing happiness and joy with them. Men are crying at graves dear to their hearts and abandoned childhood homes, where they once could enjoy sweet communication with their parents to their heart's content.

Men's tears are often compared to molten lead. They are as heavy as this material, because each tear contains inexpressible pain, bitter and hopeless despair, or vice versa, the happiness of a lifetime, once suffered by one's own soul. And men's tears also burn, like lead. Each shed tear burns a burning mark on the cheeks of the one who cries, and on the heart of the one who will witness these precious tears.

Every year more and more more men die before their wives. Just one day, their long-suffering and overloaded with sorrows and pain heart refuses to work, taking their lives forever. And isn't this sad fact a reason to break the cruel stereotype about men's tears!? Numerous heart attacks and other diseases are a consequence of the fact that year after year all the events experienced, stresses and failures were accumulated and deposited in the male soul in a bitter heap.

All people have the right to their own world, their tragedies and experiences, their personal happiness, dreams and their feelings. And they also have the right to tears! The fact that from childhood they were hammered into their heads about courage, bravery and fearlessness does not mean that, having seen men's tears, a woman should immediately shower reproaches or ridicule on a person already tired of life.

On the contrary, a wise woman should understand how easy it is for a real, strong man to cry. She will always support in such a difficult moment and show concern. Men have the same moral right to tears as to air, love or sex.

Of course, this does not apply to those pseudo-men who cry for any reason in the hope that this will soften a woman who is stronger in spirit than the man himself. These are already whiners who break down in life every time the next disappointment awaits them.

What women say about expressing male emotions in the form of tears
In society, there are many stereotypes that have ingrained into life, into the essence of a person in such a way that they affect his thoughts, opinions, choices, and actions.

Men frankly admit that they are tired of hiding behind cynicism or eternal humor. They want to show accumulated emotions. They are tired of being stone blocks and have long been striving to become ordinary feeling people with a soft heart.

Taboo on weakness
"Men do not cry!" - say some passerby little boy who has been hurt or is in physical pain. This phrase will not calm the child, and none of the adults will even pay attention to it, it is so familiar to everyone. One can imagine how many times this boy will have to hear such a phrase at moments when he feels bad. This will be until he learns to hold back his tears, despite the fact that everything inside him boils.
The words spoken in the above situation form the self-esteem of the future man in the early stages of growing up. When a child is still very young, he absorbs everything that adults say. Often people do not even think about the consequences. The fact that a boy has been hammered into his head from childhood about courage, bravery and fearlessness should not mean that an adult man has no right to tears that betray his feelings.

The heart is not a stone
And why, in fact, a man should not cry? Who invented it and why? After all, initially a person is bipolar and, accordingly, to feel pain and show emotions about this is characteristic of both sexes.
It is believed that women are emotional, and men are rational. Based on these two features of the sexes, it turns out that a man who is guided by the mind is less sentimental, less sensitive, more able to control his emotions and therefore does not cry. However, there is one “but”: after all, when controlling your emotional states, emotional pain does not become less. She, on the contrary, turns into a lump that does not find a way out, because she is holding back with all her might. It turns out that internal stress does not find resolution and thereby exacerbates general state the whole organism. In this regard, it is easier for women, their control of emotions is less weak. They are allowed to cry without special consequences for reputation, simply based on stereotypical ideas about the weaker sex.
But numerous experiments have shown that men's experiences are deeper and more expressive than women's, which means that men experience grief and misfortune much longer and stronger. Men's tears are often compared to molten lead. They are as heavy as this material, because each tear contains inexpressible pain, bitter and hopeless despair, or, on the contrary, the happiness of a lifetime, once suffered by one's own soul. And men's tears also burn, like lead. Each shed tear burns a burning mark on the cheeks of the one who cries, and on the heart of the one who will witness these precious tears.

What does real and strong mean?
Any woman next to her wants to see a real man - sincere and honest both with others and with herself.
And what do women say about men's tears? The majority notes that they are sympathetic to outward manifestation feelings of a man, even if they were taken by surprise similar situation. After all, it’s not every day that men roar!
Women perceive the tears of a man as a manifestation of serious real feelings. If a man cries, it says a lot! It means it hurts a lot! The female sex almost unanimously says: “Man's tears are stingy and break out when the heart simply cannot stand it anymore.” Deeply hidden male emotions are not to the liking of women. And then, you see, they carry all the experiences in themselves, they do not share what they have sore, then - heart attacks, different sores. After all, men are people too, and sometimes it’s better to have tears than physical self-torture! Women willingly share their experiences and rush to comfort the results: “Tears purify and liberate. Cry, men, when you cry. It will get easier! Women know what they advise.
There is only one conclusion - men's tears are a sign of strength, not weakness. Only weak person afraid to show others his reaction, fearing condemnation or misunderstanding.
Women beware of your men! They need support and understanding as much as you do!

V Everyday life it is rare to meet a man who succumbed to inner feelings and showed weakness in public - tears. Such a factor is considered to be a sign of vulnerability and powerlessness of a guy who has not found any other way out of this situation, how to cry surrounded by strangers. Social standards say that men should not be shown emotional distress and despair. However, most of the stronger sex in splendid isolation can afford to shed a mean tear. No one will know about such a phenomenon, therefore, personal qualities and volitional characteristics men will not succumb to the doubt of society.

It turns out that tears are appropriate only for a certain set of events and directly depends on the location of the guy. Then the assertion that men never cry becomes an unfounded tale. How are the guys? Why are men not allowed to cry? How do women feel about this phenomenon? How stable is this statement? When are male tears acceptable? To deal with the questions that have arisen, you need to project various options development of events. How categorical are the above statements? Having become acquainted with special occasions dictated by fate, one can draw conclusions about the expediency of male tears in the 21st century.

Common reasons for the absence of tears in the eyes of a man

A man is a stronghold of the family hearth and a support for a woman who can hide in difficult times behind the majestic back of her chosen one. In strong-willed guys, relatives and friends see support, which manifests itself in material assistance and spiritual guidance. Such stereotypes are indeed true, because representatives strong half of mankind must have strong-willed personal qualities, finding a way out various situations.

Tears are evidence of hopelessness and impotence, therefore strong-willed personality cannot afford such a manifestation of emotions in society. According to social standards, a man must maintain a sense of dignity and coldness of mind in any combination of events.

It is not uncommon for dads to become idols for the rising generation, so showing weakness is the wrong example for young followers. Men's tears are a priori unacceptable due to the loss of a favorite team or absence financial resources to buy a new car. In everyday situations, guys must remain persistent, guided by rational arguments in their actions. When figuring out why men don't cry, you can summarize the information into the following factors:

• Children's complex, due to the model of raising a child whose parents forbade crying. In the formed consciousness, such a reflex is associated with a manifestation of weakness and vulnerability.
• Excessive pride, which does not allow the guy to show his own despair, contributes to the development of fortitude in difficult times. A man consciously copes with the tears that appear, so as not to harm his own authority in society.
• Some guys are convinced that crying is the lot of losers, so they hold back such emotions under any circumstances. They diligently try to remain in the category of strong-willed individuals, without thinking about the futility of such behavior.
• The philosophy of the guys helps to cope with experiences of any scale, restoring and returning calm to consciousness. An optimistic attitude makes it easy to perceive the "blows" of fate, hoping for a positive outcome.
• Men avoid the manifestation of their own weakness in order to protect loved ones and loved ones from experiences. The nobility and mercy present in the behavior of the guys argue for a positive connotation of intentions.
• Some guys do not understand the mechanism of the lacrimal glands, therefore they do not know how and do not want to cry, transferring spiritual experiences to alcohol or other ways to “forget”.
• Indifference, accompanied by pragmatism in relation to life, is another reason for the absence of tears in the eyes of guys. They do not have access to the realization of spiritual despair, because pressing problems perceived with a "cold" head, as part of fate.

The stereotype about the ban on male tears is often instilled in boys in childhood, when parents raise a self-sufficient “male” from a young man who is unsure of his abilities, who knows the value of words and deeds. However, some mothers and fathers forget to notify their children of exceptional situations where the manifestation of weakness is the norm. The main thing is to learn to control emotions, releasing experiences only in the circle of close people who can be trusted.

A woman who sincerely loves a man will adequately perceive the tears of a chosen one crushed by grief. A wise spouse will help her partner cope with emotional imbalance, and will not reproach her for weakness and impotence

Special Occasion: Men Cry Too

Men never cry. How correct is such a statement? Do guys really atrophy this reflex? Fateful situations in which the manifestation of male weakness becomes the norm help to make sure of the opposite outcome of events. Guys may not hold back tears under the following set of circumstances:

• Death loved one that paralyzes inner world representative of the stronger sex. It is impossible to cope with an emotional storm that takes possession of consciousness, therefore, crying in this situation is a natural manifestation of feelings.
• The birth of a long-awaited child from a beloved woman is another reason for tears. Only such a state is accompanied by a positive connotation that overwhelms the man. The range of feelings that a guy experiences cannot be restrained and controlled, therefore it is more rational to enjoy the fateful moment.
• Doom or old age beloved pet, which a man fed from a young age. , appearing under such a combination of circumstances, defies explanation and is comparable to the loss of a loved one.
• At the moment when the guy offers his hand and heart to the chosen one, and she reciprocates. In the current situation, which is happening in a man's life for the first time, some representatives of the strong half of humanity cannot hold back tears - this is a normal phenomenon.
• Indulging in nostalgic memories, the guys excite in the bowels of the soul pain points, causing a storm of emotions in the mind. The main advantage of such tears is their short duration, because after a short period of time the man calms down on his own, restoring.
• At the altar with a beloved darling or at a wedding with their own children, some guys cannot cope with the gamut of feelings that overwhelm the emotional background. The peculiarity of such cases lies in the positive effect, indicating the sincerity of the future spouse or caring father.

Men's tears, which have become the result of the above experiences, do not become a prerequisite for the contempt of the environment. Similar manifestation own feelings and emotions - a natural behavioral sign that does not indicate the weaknesses of the guy. In some situations, tears weighty argument for a girl, confirming the sincerity of the partner's intentions. Wise women adequately relate to such a reaction of the chosen ones to unpleasant circumstances. Do not forget that only a strong-willed person can admit his impotence. The main thing is not to give in depressive state trying to cope with difficult circumstances.

The main skill that a successful and strong-willed man should skillfully master is total control of his own emotions in difficult times. It is important to realize that in the company of enemies to show weakness is an unjustified risk, but alone with parents or loving wife- a way to recover peace of mind

To specifically refuse tears is an unreasonable decision that still needs to be able to be implemented. It is more expedient to learn to control such a reflex, coping with the resulting lump in the throat and the chaotic interweaving of emotions in the soul. To shed a bitter tear in proud loneliness is a secret that will remain with a man. Crying in front of strangers, coworkers, or public place- a mistake, the price of which can cost the respect of friends and close circle.

A strong guy, endowed with strong-willed personal characteristics, is distinguished by the ability to restrain his own experiences for an indefinite period of time. Only in solitude can a man afford weakness. To learn to control your instincts, you need to find peace of mind or consciously distract yourself from the source of trouble, adhering to the following rules:

• In a moment of despair, pinch yourself to redirect discomfort in a different direction. physical pain allows you to muffle the spiritual imbalance for a short period of time, changing the emotional background. Similar method becomes indispensable in the society of colleagues, because the manifestation of weakness in a competitive environment is unacceptable. The main thing is not to overdo it - unnecessarily follow the example of Vincent van Gogh.
• If you feel that you are no longer holding back the tears accumulating in your eye sockets, then it is recommended to seek help from the "queen" of sciences - mathematics. Go through the multiplication table in your mind, calculate Square root or solve a difficult equation that involves thoughtful awareness of a sequence of actions. In the process of counting, consciousness switches to a rational vision of the world, therefore heartache muffled.
• Direct negative energy to the offender, turning emotional irritation into aggression. There is no need to uncover the “axe” of war by starting a fight or insulting an opponent. However, on a subconscious level, mercilessly “dealing with” a counterpart is a rational decision.

Holding back tears in public is synonymous with a man who has not allowed himself to show weakness in the presence of strangers. The result of this phenomenon will be absentee respect and solidarity of others. Only a few who have learned to manage pain, anger and despair are able to cope with personal spiritual experiences.

You can't say that men never cry - similar phenomenon permissible in certain situations, so it is wrong to exclude this fact. In some cases, involving mental imbalance and permanent, it is not possible to hold back tears. At such moments, you need to control your own emotions, guided by the above recommendations. It is important for guys to realize the meaning of tears, not showing their own vulnerability in the society of unfamiliar people, but those who are in despair.

Men don't cry. Usually this sentence always ends with a dot. But TSR decided to put a question mark and get to the bottom of it. We conducted a survey among those who used men's tears or watched from the sidelines. So do men cry? Only the pure truth and no lies.

Dmitry Petrov:

The men are crying. Even the strongest and strongest. My grandfather for me is the standard of a real man, he raised me, he is a real man. He knows everything, he knows everything. And how to fix the crane will advise, and how to better behave with a friend in difficult situation. The only time in my life I saw him cry. It was at his mother's funeral. He was crying out loud. Well, in a different way.

Alya Gruntovskaya:

The men are crying. Of course they cry. They sob like little girls if they hit a corner with their little finger, or, for example, they were going to play football, and the weather turned bad outside - which is no reason. But as for real (emphasized) men, it is fair to say that I have never seen them wipe away tears. It seems to me that crying is the destiny and, oddly enough, the joy of girls. We can all be so impulsive and emotional, burst into tears (whether there is a reason for it or not - it doesn’t matter) at any moment, but if a young man does this, then, perhaps, I will think that he is not quite normal.

Alexey Marushchak:

Constantly roaring, at home, at work, with a friend, everywhere and always. Those men who claim that they are so brutal that their lacrimal glands are compressed to such an extent that they only let off steam are blatantly lying. We are not iron. I roar very often, from all kinds of f **** suffering videos that the Internet is full of now. I drop stingy male tears right on the floor. From all sorts of melodramas and other nonsense.

Crying is not shameful, it's shameful to give up!

Alas and ah, I'm probably too sentimental. When I lose people close to me and not only people. I roar, I roar and I will roar, but I stick to the "real male rule'I don't show it. For a man is a support, it is not comme il faut for us to roar in front of others. And so, of course. On the movie P.S. I love you", due to a number of reasons that led to watching this film all alone and with a bottle of wine (the lady was tired and fell asleep at the very beginning), I thought that at the end of the film I would all glow in the apartment. Well, here are the things.

Lena Egorova:

I saw a lot of “boyish” tears and only a couple of times a real “mean male tear”. The boys were crying uncontrollably and, in my opinion, everyone tried to cry the way he saw it in some movie, showing all the wonders of his acting skills.

I saw most of these snot in that same 2007: checkered bracelets, a jar of a jaguar and a bang - required attributes, without it it was impossible to cry.

And in 2011, I often watched the scene "I understand everything, I'm a fool who loves you", all this was accompanied by an abundant stream of tears. In my opinion, it is crying uncontrollably, in the presence of someone - these are always acting scenes and such frills have nothing to do with real feelings and emotions. A real man can cry at home, alone and only because Woodstock passed without him.

Olga Alekseeva:

I don't like men's tears. I'm one of those cynical women who think that real men don't cry. I admit men's tears only on "special" occasions - the loss of relatives and friends. I used to think: “I’ll see my boyfriend’s tears - I’m in business, he trusts me, well done!”. And then I somehow saw ... We cried for a long time and, it seemed, over simulated, with the words "Don't leave, I'll forgive everything!", A kind of crocodile tears. In addition to the feelings of “fu-be-hey, dude, good, I'm not like that” - there was no feeling that a person trusts me. Since then, I can not stand men's tears!

Leave it to the women - let them roar. And you - well, I don’t know, fuck someone or get drunk like pigs. Basically, come up with something.

Ivan Kistanov:

They cry, they just lie that they don't cry. But the reason is different for everyone. Some cry from onions when the wife does not want to cook borscht, but she wants to eat. Others when they see the price of gasoline. Well, I can give vent to feelings when watching Interstellar. I admit honestly, I was a little ashamed, but emotions overflowed. Even when I watched The Lion King I didn't cry. And here…

Igor Bolganov:

Of course, men cry, because some of us are people too. And the mechanism of secretion of tear fluid is the same for all people. But, if nothing prevents girls from indulging in sweet sobs at least ten times a day, then men are faced with complex problem consisting of three major factors.
The first factor is physiological: male hormones, in particular, testosterone, seriously interfere with the release of sparkling salty tears.
The second is psychological. In almost all world cultures there is an educational archetype, according to which the tears of the strong half, as well as other manifestations of weakness, are not encouraged. You can argue for a long time why this happened - partly the answer is in reason No. 3, but the prerequisites are quite logical.
The third factor is instinctive: it is at the junction of the first and second causes.

Tears (and not only in Homo Sapiens) are a clear biological marker that the body's defenses have sharply decreased. This is a clear sign of weakness. And in the era of the early Paleolithic, they could not hesitate to f*** with a club on the head and eat for it. Which is exactly what they did.

Given all this nonsense, it’s safe to say that men cry for exactly the same reasons as women, but in the case of us, this “something” must be out of the ordinary so that the resulting stress can overcome all the above barriers . Personally, over the past 10 years, I have cried twice - at a funeral and from unhappy love.

Oleg Khovrin:

With age, a man becomes more and more sentimental, and no longer cries over the poor dog Hachiko, but, for example, over the birth of the first long-awaited child. This is one of better ways emotional release, but at the same time - a demonstration of your weakness.

The men are crying. The main rule is to do it so that no one sees.

Nastya Yudina:

Of course men cry. Even the most imperturbable ones. Even with women. But as a rule, they always cry on business and try to keep within thirty seconds. Of course, a man sobbing within the walls of the office, subjected to unreasonable criticism of his boss, will look like an infantile whiner in the eyes of his colleagues. And if, for example, a thirty-year-old driver, seeing a dent in his new Opel, starts sobbing at the scene of an accident and complaining to his wife on the phone, then traffic police officers (like other witnesses to the accident) are unlikely to consider him sane. But who would ever think to condemn the undisguised tears of joy of a man who has just become a father? And it is hardly possible to call a weakling a crying man who has lost someone close or faced insurmountable difficulties. And, in the end, which of the men did not let a mean tear, touched while watching a movie?

Cyril Copernicus:

As it turned out, over the years I became quite a sentimental person. From resentment, bitterness or pain I will not cry, I will endure. But from something touching, I can very well. It can be some strong scene in a good movie, interactive with the audience at the concert of a cool artist, or, in general, a poignant moment in a song.

I don't cry in front of women. Once, during sex, one girl burst into tears all in feelings. I didn't.

Daria Matveeva:

In my universe there are three categories of men and their likenesses. The first is "a crybaby, because tears are not ashamed." This is a category that is impossible to look at without pity and you want to quickly give them to your mother so that she gives a rattle and the child calms down. Category two - “men don’t cry, they get upset” - poseurs of the highest degree who put on a good face when bad game. With "boys" - flint, and at home under Loc Dog tears that she said no. Both of these categories are banned. But there is also a third one. Guys whose tears are oh-oh-very hard to see, but if you ever saw them, you are a superwoman! And that's what such men, what women who brought such people to tears - all should be listed in the Red Book.

Dmitry Kharkov:

More like crying. Cry when watching sad movies. They cry when a girl leaves them. They cry when they lose loved ones. They cry when they miss their chance, which they will never return.

Pavel Legkodimov:

Men don't cry. The men are just freaking out.

What can make a man cry?

Hello ladies! Today we will talk about a very rare natural phenomenon - male tears. I don't know, maybe you've seen them more often than me, and can you name a bunch of ways to call them? Write in the comments, we'll figure it out. Well, I will try to explain to you where men's tears come from according to my observations and feelings. Let's start from ancient times. Remember?

“Nehemiah 1:2. And Hanani, one of my brothers, came, he and some people from Judah. And I asked them about the survivors of the Jews who remained from captivity, and about Jerusalem.
Nehemiah 1:3. And they said to me: The rest, who remained from captivity, are there in their country, in great distress and humiliation; and the wall of Jerusalem is broken down, and its gates are burned with fire.
Nehemiah 1:4. Hearing these words, I sat down and wept, and was sad for several days, and fasted and prayed before the God of heaven.

This Old Testament, The Book of the Prophet Nehemiah. Why did Nehemiah cry? I think that not only from grief and longing for loved ones. Much stronger a real man may suffer from impotence. It seems to me that impotence is one of the main reasons for men's tears. Powerlessness in the face of death or serious illness of a loved one. Powerlessness in the face of some terrible and vile force that has broken or is breaking the life of you or your family. Powerlessness before circumstances, before an absurd accident, an accident, before the impossibility of correcting some kind of one's own monstrous mistake.

Although, of course, there are simpler reasons. Sometimes a man really wants to cry from some banal injustice. Well, for example, you've been working on something for ten years. And then they put a half-witted young relative of the business owner over you, who doesn’t understand a damn thing about the issue, is rude and treats you like an idiot. Strong and quick-tempered natures, of course, will once give such a character in the face and will continue to look for another job. But the more restrained ones can endure for a while, but at the same time they worry a lot, up to tears. However, strong-willed strong man may also suffer from unfair treatment of himself. It is very insulting and sad when we are not appreciated. And when decisions are made by some very narrow-minded and unworthy people, and we are obliged to fulfill them.

It happens (albeit rarely) when you want to cry from loneliness. Especially in contrast, when all day long you communicate closely with someone at work, solve all kinds of issues, go to meetings. And in the evening you find yourself in an empty apartment alone. And you understand that all the creative work that devoured you all and deprived you of any time for your personal life, as a result, put you in this panel cage, where you are alone, no one calls, no one comes. You can, of course, dial a friend yourself and have a drink with him. But I want something else - native, to care, love, lie next to you and be one with you.

Speaking about myself, I rarely cry. Tried to remember when. Of course, at the funeral of my grandfather and grandmother. At the funeral of an uncle who died of cancer at 45. At the funeral of a colleague with whom we worked together. And when he buried his dog in the forest, he also sobbed all the way back in the car. And I’m ashamed to admit that I didn’t even sob for people like that. Maybe because it was a shame in front of the dog, which, because of the eternal work, paid little attention, although, unlike people, it depended entirely on me. Perhaps everything, but I just didn’t have, fortunately, other serious reasons.

I don’t know if it is possible to classify as men those who sob over any trifles. Who throws tantrums to their wives and up to tears. You already know better if you suddenly live with such people. With women, I could only cry with happiness. This is when you hug the person closest to you at that time and so well that you really want to cry. Here, in my opinion, you can not hold back. May that be the case for you!