Every time you are rejected, fate guides you to what you really need. It may not seem so at the moment, but it is true. Looking back, you realize this.
When faced with criticism or rejection, you begin to think: “This is yet another proof that I am not worthy.” You need to realize that this is not the case. It's just the opposite. The situation or the person who refused was not worth YOUR ATTENTION AND TIME.
Each of us needs to learn to deal adequately with rejection. Through this experience, we learn to avoid relationships and opportunities that will bring us nothing. We learn to find what is meant for us.
Rejection does not mean that you are not worthy. This means that the person who refused did not see what you could offer him. But now you have time to work on yourself and pay attention to other opportunities in life.
When faced with rejection, do you feel disappointed? Definitely. Will it hurt you a little? Of course, yes, because you are human. Rejection hurts everyone. It feels like our heart is broken. For some time, questions will be swirling in your head:
What did I do wrong?
Why didn't he consider my feelings?
How so?
And so on and so forth...
Use all of these negative emotions as a source of inspiration. Find motivation in them to start writing the next chapter of your life.
If you constantly feel like people around you don't value or respect you much, the problem is with you. Maybe you, without realizing it, underestimate yourself? You and only you determine what you are worth. You decide what is worth your attention and time.
In short, it's time to stop blaming yourself for everything. Do it right now! If you don't respect and value yourself, no one will respect or value you.
Too often we allow the rejections we've faced in the past to dictate our future. We believe the words that we once heard from some (probably not very smart) person. We recall a situation whose sad outcome was only the result of a coincidence. We don't think we deserve more.
It's time to get rid of the idea that is firmly ingrained in your subconscious that you don't deserve better! It's time to remind yourself of the following:
1. A person you once loved and respected, and which continued to humiliate you time after time, cannot (at the moment) contribute to your spiritual or intellectual development.
He has nothing to offer you except headaches and suffering.
2. One of the most wonderful and important points In this life– when you finally find the strength to stop trying to change what you cannot change.
Such things include, but are not limited to, the behavior or decisions of other people.
3. Life and God have other plans for you. There is no doubt that God does not believe that you should constantly suffer or live with the knowledge that you are broken.
4. Sometimes life pulls the rug out from under us. just so that we become stronger than before.
Stronger both emotionally and psychologically. This is one of the harsh truths of life.
5. Rejection is not the end of the world.. There is nothing in life that should be perceived as an Apocalypse. Of course, this does not mean that rejection does not hurt us.
The loss of someone causes us incredible pain. For some time it seems to us that the end of the world has come. This is quite natural, but it passes.
6. Sometimes people simply don’t notice everything we do for them. This continues exactly until we stop. It also happens that the more chances we give to someone, the less they respect us.
Enough. It's time to stop. Don't let anyone think it's okay to disrespect you. You deserve to be with someone who will make you smile every day. You deserve someone who will appreciate you. A person you can always rely on.
7. Some chapters of life can be ended even before it all comes to that. Don't go with the flow. There's no point in trying to fix something that shouldn't be fixed.
8. Take a deep breath. You will find inner peace the moment you stop allowing people or events to control your emotions.
9. You don’t need to accept everything that others think and say about you., too close to the heart.
Trust me, you really shouldn't do this. A person's words and thoughts are a reflection of himself. You have nothing to do with this.
10. Strong people who manage to succeed in something These are self-made people. They simply correctly disposed of the “stones” that those around them once threw at them.
11. Your scars should remind you that the pain you once caused allowed you to become stronger and smarter. This pain has hardened you.
12. Losing something or someone, do not treat this incident as a loss. Treat this occasion as a unique opportunity to take some extra weight off your shoulders.
Now it will be much easier for you to follow the path that is intended for you in this life.
13. Yours will not run away from you. One way or another, you will get what is meant for you. Be careful. Keep a positive attitude.
14. In the grand scheme of things, rejections and skeptical individuals don’t matter.. Don't let them influence you. Go forward!
Many people are not even aware of the potential they have. They do not strive for great goals only because (in the opinion of someone around them) these goals cannot be achieved.
15. Too many people take credit for qualities they don’t have., and underestimate who they really are. Don't be one of these people.
How do you appear to yourself when you are alone? This is what the real you is. Realize this!
No matter how awkward or weird some people think you may be, don't be shy about being yourself.
16. Comparing yourself with someone else undermines your self-esteem and lowers your level of intelligence. You stop believing that you have the wisdom to deal with the situation.
When you try to determine whether you meet someone else's expectations of you, you are doing the same thing. No one can handle this situation better than you yourself.
17. The more goals in our life that inspire us, the less time we have to try to gain approval from others.
18. You can use your suffering, and disappointments associated with refusals as a source of motivation and inspiration, rather than irritation. You and only you determine your outlook on life.
19. Sometimes change is a great opportunity. let go of the situation and let something better into life.
20. Now is the moment when you can start all over again. There are endless possibilities ahead of you. Find the strength to let go of everything that should remain in the past.
Be wise and keep moving forward. You work hard to achieve your goals. Wait patiently for the moment when what you deserve comes into your life.
Final thoughts...
In order to appreciate yourself, you don’t need someone’s love or recognition at all. When someone judges you or abandons you, or when you are rejected, it is not about you. It's all about this person, his self-doubt, limitations and his needs. You don't have to take what he tells you personally!
Self-esteem does not depend on the opinions of others. Each of us knows our own worth. You exist in this world, which means you are important.
You have the right to be yourself. You have the right to voice your thoughts and talk about your feelings. You can be open about your needs. You are who you are and that is more than enough. You have to believe it. You have the right to break up with people who try to convince you otherwise.
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Breaking these behavior patterns can help you increase your EQ. And it, as research results show, is a critical factor that truly distinguishes successful people among all the others.
When did society first learn about the coefficient? emotional intelligence(EQ), people almost immediately realized that only with the help of this concept could they explain the apparent anomaly that had long occupied the minds of many researchers. Thus, people with a fairly average IQ are able to outperform people with a high IQ by about 70% life situations. This anomaly has thrown a huge wrench into the wheels of the popular belief that a high IQ is supposedly the only prerequisite for success in almost any field of activity.
Decades of research indicates that emotional intelligence is the critical factor that separates truly successful and remarkable people from everyone else. The dependence on this factor is so great that approximately 90% of the best artists and actors are extremely different. high level emotional intelligence quotient.
“Without a doubt, emotional intelligence is much less common than bookish, memorized intelligence, but in my experience, it is much more important in the formation leadership qualities. It simply cannot be ignored,”
Jack Welch.
Emotional intelligence is something elusive that each of us has, and how we deal with behavior (both our own and those around us), with our social interactions and making personal decisions, and how positive the results of all this are.
However, despite the importance of emotional intelligence, its ephemeral and elusive nature makes it very difficult to determine which parts of it you already have, and how you can acquire those that you lack. Fortunately, now it has become much easier than before - you can always take the EQ test compiled by leading psychologists - at least the one that comes with the book “Emotional Intelligence 2.0”.
Unfortunately, quality (and scientifically valid) EQ tests are not only not free, but can also cost you a hefty amount of money. That's why we decided to help you: we analyzed the data of approximately a million people tested by TalentSmart, trying to identify based on them personal qualities, which are signs of low EQ. So, below you will find a list of qualities and behavior patterns that you should get rid of if you want to increase your emotional intelligence.
1. Almost everything in your life causes stress.
When you suppress your feelings without knowing what to do with them, they quickly turn into uncontrollable feelings of tension, stress and anxiety. Unresolved and suppressed emotions strain both your mind and body. By developing the skills associated with high levels of emotional intelligence, you make it easier to manage stress - mainly because it allows you to identify and successfully resolve problematic situations before they get out of your control.
People who are unable to use emotional intelligence skills to manage their own stress often turn to other, much less effective and safe methods control your mood. They are much more likely to experience anxiety, are prone to depression, drug use, and even suicidal thoughts.
2. It is not easy for you to confirm your own importance and assert yourself.
People with a high emotional intelligence quotient are able to balance good manners, empathy and kindness with the ability to set clear boundaries of personal space and affirm their own worth. This combination adds tactfulness to you and ideally contributes to the successful resolution of conflict situations. Most people who feel that their interests are being harmed in one way or another switch to aggressive or passive-aggressive behavior.
People with a high emotional intelligence quotient maintain balance and goodwill in such situations, directing their behavior away from instinctive emotional reactions. This allows them to successfully neutralize difficult and toxic people without creating enemies.
3. You have a limited emotional vocabulary.
All people experience the full range of all possible emotions throughout their lives, but few are able to accurately and reliably recognize all of them as they arise. Research on human emotions shows that only about 36% of all people are capable of this, and this is a universal human problem, since unrecognized emotions are very, very often perceived completely incorrectly, which leads to irrational decisions and counterproductive actions.
People with a high emotional intelligence quotient are masters of their emotions, primarily because they understand them and have a wealth of words sufficient to express them. accurate description. For example, while most people would say they feel "sucks," people with high emotional intelligence can pinpoint exactly how they feel "sucks"—whether they feel "anxious," "irritable," or maybe they are "irritable," or they are, for example, “sad.” The more specific the words you use to describe your feelings, the better you will be able to understand what exactly you are feeling, what caused those feelings, and what you can do about it.
4. You are quick to make value judgments and defend them fiercely.
People with insufficient levels of emotional intelligence tend to quickly form value judgments based on insufficient data (or even their complete absence), and then fiercely and ardently defend them, taking into account only those opinions and facts that confirm them, sweeping aside everything else, no matter. how reliable?
Most often, they are ready to argue until they are hoarse, supporting their opinions, even when they subconsciously feel that they are not entirely truthful. This is especially dangerous when such people are in management or leadership positions, as their emotional and biased opinions then become the basis of the strategy of the entire team, firm or organization.
Emotionally intelligent people do not make quick value judgments, or if they do, they do not immediately act on them. They put their thoughts on the “inner shelf” and let them rest there, because they know that initial reactions are often based not on facts and logic, but on emotions. They give their thoughts time to develop and themselves to consider possible pros and cons. And only after that they communicate the finalized idea to other people, taking into account their needs and opinions.
5. You are vindictive.
Negative emotions that force you to remember for a long time the grievances inflicted on you (real or imaginary) are in fact just a stress reaction of your body. Once you remember the event that caused the offense, your body switches into fight-or-flight mode, engaging the survival mechanism that originally forced our ancestors, when faced with danger, to either stay put and fight with all their might, or to run away from everyone. legs
When the threat is real, in front of you right now and deadly, this mechanism is necessary for our survival, but when that threat is no longer relevant, continuing to hold on to the emotions that cause this stress has a devastating effect on your body and can have Negative influence on your health in the long term.
Thus, researchers at Emory University have proven that long-term stress, caused by rancor, contributes to increased blood pressure and the occurrence of diseases of cardio-vascular system. When you remember and relive past hurts over and over again, it means that you are holding onto not only the memories of them, but also the stress associated with them, and people with high emotional intelligence know to avoid this at all costs. When you stop holding on to past grievances, it not only improves your emotional condition, but also helps you improve your health.
6. You can't let go of your mistakes.
People with high emotional intelligence know how to distance themselves from their mistakes without forgetting them. By keeping their own mistakes at a safe distance, but still close enough to examine them from all angles and learn everything they need to from them, they are able to draw the right conclusions from even the most unpleasant situation and avoid its repetition in the future. But in order to walk that fine line between being self-conscious about mistakes and completely forgetting about them, you need very great awareness.
If you start remembering your mistakes over and over again, mentally returning to them, it makes you nervous, twitchy and indecisive, and if you completely forget about them, you will most likely repeat them again and again. The key to balancing these two extremes lies in the ability to turn any mistakes you make into stepping stones on the ladder of self-improvement. And this, in turn, helps you get back on your feet again and again, no matter how hard you fall.
7. You often feel like those around you don’t understand you at all.
When you lack emotional intelligence, you often simply cannot understand the impression you make on others. You often feel like they completely misunderstand you because you simply cannot convey your message to them in a way they can understand.
People with a high emotional intelligence quotient know that even with their best efforts and great practice, they cannot perfectly understand and communicate every idea to others. That is why they carefully monitor the reactions of their interlocutors, notice what points they do not understand, and try to convey this part of the idea to them in other words until they achieve complete understanding.
8. You don’t know what exactly causes certain emotional reactions in you.
Each of us has our own “triggers” - situations and people who seem to press some buttons inside us, forcing us to act impulsively.
Emotionally intelligent people are intimately aware of their triggers, and use this knowledge to avoid similar situations and people, or try not to react to them too emotionally, destroying the image of a calm and reasonable person.
9. You are never angry with anyone.
A high level of emotional intelligence does not at all imply that you should not be offended by anything and smile at everyone, even if these people annoy you. No, this means, first of all, the ability to control your emotions, using this to achieve the best results in a given situation. From time to time, this means that you have to show people that you are upset, sad, or, for example, that something annoys you.
If you constantly hide your emotions behind a mask of happiness and positivity, this is not genuine or productive behavior.
Emotionally intelligent people use both positive and negative emotions in appropriate situations.
10. You blame other people for how you feel about them.
Emotions always originate in the same place - in the depths of your soul. Yes, the desire to shift responsibility for what you feel onto the shoulders of other people was, is and will be a great temptation, but you must take responsibility for your own emotions.
Believe me, no one can make you feel what you don’t want. If you think otherwise, it only keeps you in place.
11. You feel insulted by every little thing.
If you clearly know who you are and keep your emotions under control, it is unlikely that others will say or do anything that will make you angry. Emotionally intelligent people have great self-confidence and an open mind, which makes them quite thick-skinned.
You may well laugh at a friendly joke about yourself or criticize yourself - primarily because you are able to draw a clear line between humor and humiliation.
Let's sum up all of the above
Unlike IQ, your EQ is highly variable and can be easily increased. As you train your brain by repeatedly practicing the behaviors of emotionally intelligent people, you create the connections between neurons in your brain that are needed to turn those behaviors into habits.
And the more your brain gets used to new habits, the faster your old, destructive habits will die away without a trace. And it won't be long before you begin to respond to your environment with a level of emotional intelligence you never thought possible.
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A psychotherapist is a doctor whom people tend to treat with slight distrust, considering him a rather abstract doctor, and therefore turning to him only in especially extreme cases. In fact, his work is not much different from the work of an ordinary doctor: they come to him with a problem, he eradicates it, significantly improving the patient’s life. But how do you know when it’s time for you to “heal your soul”?
website, Taking this as a basis, I have collected the 10 most common signs that are really worth contacting a specialist.
“Everything seems to be fine with me, but for some reason I wake up in the morning and want to hang myself”
Sometimes you feel as if some sad event has been erased from your memory, and your feelings have been forgotten. As a result, you were left with good memories, but in complete despondency, with a state of irritability, constant apathy and incomprehensible depression. But feelings never lie: if it’s already enough long time It seems that you feel very bad, but it doesn’t seem to you. The main questions: why and where did this painful feeling come from?
The psychotherapist will certainly find out what the problem is. The reasons can be different - from unnoticed depression to symptoms of serious illnesses. Or it is possible that in your case irritability is a completely healthy reaction, you just don’t fully realize it yourself real situation around you.
“It seems like I'm doing the wrong thing. And in general, I’m not living my own life.”
Your soulmate is not your soulmate; you studied in the wrong specialty, and your potential is probably completely different; and this gray, oppressive city is absolutely not for you! This all seems more like a failed alternative version your real life.
All this is also not without reason. The most probable cause- in your upbringing and in the hopes placed on you by your parents. But the doctor will explain more precisely.
“It seems to me that I walk in circles and always step on the same rake”
You periodically get bored with all your friends, you can’t work in the same place for a long time, you always have the same problems with your boss, you have similar conflicts with your colleagues every now and then, romantic relationships follow the same tragic scenario every time... Boredom. Yearning. What is this, fate?
No. One of the reasons may be the self-defense of your psyche, which displaces the most traumatic experiences from your consciousness. You are not aware of them and each time you encounter them as if for the first time. You won't be able to handle this on your own. But a specialist will help you.
“I constantly have a headache/stomach ache, but not a single doctor can find the cause of the problem.”
No wonder they say that all diseases are caused by nerves. Year after year, numerous studies confirm that stress can manifest itself in the form of wide range physical ailments - from chronic indigestion to headaches, frequent colds or even decreased sexual desire. So if your hospital saga never yields a concrete diagnosis, perhaps you should look inside your head.
"I can't fight procrastination"
It is important to understand: procrastination is not a problem, but a symptom.(unless, of course, we are talking about banal laziness). Time management, willpower and all kinds of training will not help. Procrastination can really have serious reasons, starting from a lack of faith in the success of your own activities (which you may not even suspect) to the mistakes of your parents.
"I hate my appearance"
Self-criticism and desire to change better side- it's not bad. But if you are rated quite highly (according to external data) by those around you, and at the same time you are constantly dissatisfied with yourself, and if it seems to you that if they changed you a little, you would live completely differently, then this is a problem psychological nature. This means that someone else is clearly to blame for your judgment. But who? Where? And when did this happen?
“I always feel guilty”
You are soft, like plasticine, and you can easily be convinced that you are wrong. You constantly apologize. You feel like you're doing something wrong. You may not realize that you regularly experience similar feelings. This is not the norm. This is definitely where you need to consult a specialist.
“I constantly get involved in painful relationships”
The same type of men/women, the same every time conflict situation with a partner, loss of interest, boredom, unjustified hopes - and all this hell in your personal life is repeated many times. Most likely, the problem is with your parents. But which one exactly? There may be a million options, and it is important to find yours specifically.
“I get very nervous about interacting with people”
You are going to an important meeting, and your hands are shaking with excitement. They continue to shake before a date, before meeting friends, bosses, etc. This is not just a sign of a sensitive or shy person, it is a clear attitude ingrained in your brain. And it will help you realize it - bingo! - psychotherapist.
"Friends complain about me"
You lose friends, move away from loved ones, some acquaintances suddenly abruptly interrupt communication with you, stop responding to phone calls and messages no longer invite you to meetings and joint trips somewhere. This may be a sign that you have exceeded the limit of their patient, friendly support for a problem that you yourself are completely unaware of. And if those around you quite often hint at you about it, then this is a sign that it’s time to talk to someone who will understand your behavior.
And most importantly
All these and similar symptoms periodically appear in all people. If you suddenly felt depressed this evening, had a headache, didn’t like your reflection in the mirror, or didn’t respond to a message best friend, this does not mean that you urgently need to run to the doctors. Symptoms should alert you only if they appear for a long time and are stable, when it really interferes with your life. If they do not harm you (and your loved ones) at all, then these are not problems at all.
And for those who speak English and still doubt whether to go to a psychotherapist or not, we advise good test from Psychcentral. Be healthy and smile more often!
About what you probably have the most serious illness, with any sneeze, it’s nothing more than fear of death, fear of loss of control. Why do you react this way, trying to immediately see the worst for yourself? Let's try to figure this out with you.
Most likely, someone in your family has already behaved this way before you - it could be yours. mother or grandmother the person who was next to you during the period of your formation as a Personality, in childhood. Parents and adults, in a child’s childhood, are very authoritative and it is their attitude to life, to the environment to the world and to yourself leaves an imprint on behavior and perception of the world child. If you very often hear about what bad things can happen and every event in life is interpreted only with negative side , then such a manner of seeing the world becomes familiar to a child too. If adults are afraid, that means the world is dangerous, hostile and that means any of my illnesses has the most terrible basis. My head hurts- immediately meningitis, be sick- means stomach cancer and so on. Fears that once appeared in childhood, without finding a clear explanation, begin to acquire new fears and are already becoming beyond human control, moreover, already these fears completely control the person himself, each time worsening his psychological state, keeping him in high voltage. What needs to be done to stop being afraid of death? To begin with, we finally need know yourself, And the world- On one's own, while drawing your own conclusions about everything. Most of the time you live other people's experience And other people's beliefs and don’t even try to check them but truth. Try to remember how long ago you heard from someone from your family about him (her) terrible diseases and that he would rather die soon (go to bed). And analyze how many years have passed since then and how this person is still living and has no plans to die yet. Even if this happened (due to old age), it doesn’t matter, a lot of time passed until it happened naturally, and not because of terrible diseases invented by man himself.
This is one of possible options the emergence of your fears.
Second option, this is when one of your relatives was seriously ill and all this happened before your eyes, which left an indelible mark and led to the fear of death. In this case, it is still worth remembering that every person Take responsibility for yourself and your life and how it developed and what happens in it depends only on the lifestyle this person. Simply put, what happened to one person does not mean that the same thing will happen to another, for example, to you. The most important conclusion you can draw is to understand that can (should) lead healthy image life- eat right, drink purified water, include more vegetables and fruits, cereals and all kinds of cereals in your diet, while excluding time-tested harmful foods such as sugar, salt, all carbonated drinks, all kinds of fast foods, animal fats and of course add physical exercise to keep yourself in sports shape. At the same time, you take again Responsibility for your health and you don’t just panic and silently wait for something terrible to happen, but For an adult you begin to decide for yourself what is for you good for health and which is harmful. If your inexplicable panic and fear are completely beyond your reasonable reasoning and control, then you should turn to a specialist for help and, with his help, come to understanding and self-confidence. Best wishes.
Bekezhanova Botagoz Iskrakyzy, psychologist of Astana
Good answer 0 Bad answer 2Every time you are rejected, fate guides you to what you really need. It may not seem so at the moment, but it is true. Looking back, you realize this.
When faced with criticism or rejection, you begin to think: “This is yet another proof that I am not worthy.” You need to realize that this is not the case. It's just the opposite. The situation or the person who refused was not worth YOUR ATTENTION AND TIME.
Each of us needs to learn to deal adequately with rejection. Through this experience, we learn to avoid relationships and opportunities that will bring us nothing. We learn to find what is meant for us.
Rejection does not mean that you are not worthy. This means that the person who refused did not see what you could offer him. But now you have time to work on yourself and pay attention to other opportunities in life.
When faced with rejection, do you feel disappointed? Definitely. Will it hurt you a little? Of course, yes, because you are human. Rejection hurts everyone. It feels like our heart is broken. For some time, questions will be swirling in your head:
What did I do wrong?
Why didn't he consider my feelings?
How so?
And so on and so forth...
Use all these negative emotions as a source of inspiration. Find motivation in them to start writing the next chapter of your life.
If you constantly feel like people around you don't value or respect you much, the problem is with you. Maybe you, without realizing it, underestimate yourself? You and only you determine what you are worth. You decide what is worth your attention and time.
In short, it's time to stop blaming yourself for everything. Do it right now! If you don't respect and value yourself, no one will respect or value you.
Too often we allow the rejections we've faced in the past to dictate our future. We believe the words that we once heard from some (probably not very smart) person. We recall a situation whose sad outcome was only the result of a coincidence. We don't think we deserve more.
It's time to get rid of the idea that is firmly ingrained in your subconscious that you don't deserve better! It's time to remind yourself of the following:
1. A person you once loved and respected, and which continued to humiliate you time after time, cannot (at the moment) contribute to your spiritual or intellectual development.
He has nothing to offer you except headaches and suffering.
2. One of the most wonderful and important moments in this life– when you finally find the strength to stop trying to change what you cannot change.
Such things include, but are not limited to, the behavior or decisions of other people.
3. Life and God have other plans for you. There is no doubt that God does not believe that you should constantly suffer or live with the knowledge that you are broken.
4. Sometimes life pulls the rug out from under us. just so that we become stronger than before.
Stronger both emotionally and psychologically. This is one of the harsh truths of life.
5. Rejection is not the end of the world.. There is nothing in life that should be perceived as an Apocalypse. Of course, this does not mean that rejection does not hurt us.
The loss of someone causes us incredible pain. For some time it seems to us that the end of the world has come. This is quite natural, but it passes.
6. Sometimes people simply don’t notice everything we do for them. This continues exactly until we stop. It also happens that the more chances we give to someone, the less they respect us.
Enough. It's time to stop. Don't let anyone think it's okay to disrespect you. You deserve to be with someone who will make you smile every day. You deserve someone who will appreciate you. A person you can always rely on.
7. Some chapters of life can be ended even before it all comes to that. Don't go with the flow. There's no point in trying to fix something that shouldn't be fixed.
8. Take a deep breath. You will find inner peace the moment you stop allowing people or events to control your emotions.
9. You don’t need to accept everything that others think and say about you., too close to the heart.
Trust me, you really shouldn't do this. A person's words and thoughts are a reflection of himself. You have nothing to do with this.
10. Strong people who manage to succeed at something These are self-made people. They simply correctly disposed of the “stones” that those around them once threw at them.
11. Your scars should remind you that the pain you once caused allowed you to become stronger and smarter. This pain has hardened you.
12. Losing something or someone, do not treat this incident as a loss. Treat this occasion as a unique opportunity to take some extra weight off your shoulders.
Now it will be much easier for you to follow the path that is intended for you in this life.
13. Yours will not run away from you. One way or another, you will get what is meant for you. Be careful. Keep a positive attitude.
14. In the grand scheme of things, rejections and skeptical individuals don’t matter.. Don't let them influence you. Go forward!
Many people are not even aware of the potential they have. They do not strive for great goals only because (in the opinion of someone around them) these goals cannot be achieved.
15. Too many people take credit for qualities they don’t have., and underestimate who they really are. Don't be one of these people.
How do you appear to yourself when you are alone? This is what the real you is. Realize this!
No matter how awkward or weird some people think you may be, don't be shy about being yourself.
16. Comparing yourself with someone else undermines your self-esteem and lowers your level of intelligence. You stop believing that you have the wisdom to deal with the situation.
When you try to determine whether you meet someone else's expectations of you, you are doing the same thing. No one can handle this situation better than you yourself.
17. The more goals in our life that inspire us, the less time we have to try to gain approval from others.
18. You can use your suffering, and disappointments associated with refusals as a source of motivation and inspiration, rather than irritation. You and only you determine your outlook on life.
19. Sometimes change is a great opportunity. let go of the situation and let something better into life.
20. Now is the moment when you can start all over again. There are endless possibilities ahead of you. Find the strength to let go of everything that should remain in the past.
Be wise and keep moving forward. You work hard to achieve your goals. Wait patiently for the moment when what you deserve comes into your life.
Final thoughts...
In order to appreciate yourself, you don’t need someone’s love or recognition at all. When someone judges you or abandons you, or when you are rejected, it is not about you. It's all about this person, his self-doubt, limitations and his needs. You don't have to take what he tells you personally!
Self-esteem does not depend on the opinions of others. Each of us knows our own worth. You exist in this world, which means you are important.
You have the right to be yourself. You have the right to voice your thoughts and talk about your feelings. You can be open about your needs. You are who you are and that is more than enough. You have to believe it. You have the right to break up with people who try to convince you otherwise.
