Its reasons are much deeper. After my caesarean section, it took a very long time for my head to get back to normal. Consequences: disruption of attachment with the child. Therefore, I urge everyone who is having a hard time with their CS - you can fight this, and this must be done without delay, if not for your own sake, then at least for the sake of the child.

What if I tried harder

Could I give birth myself? This thought is simply terrifying. You keep replaying the birth in your head and thinking, if only you had endured the contractions a little longer and didn’t give in to the doctors, you would have been able to give birth yourself.

What can I say? Sometimes, indeed, doctors are in too much of a hurry. But most often the intervention is quite justified.

I often pestered doctors with the question: could I give birth on my own? Until the neurologist, examining my son, said: be glad that there is no cerebral palsy, and that he is alive. After all, he was born with a double tight entanglement.

Indeed, the thought of the child’s health can be life-saving here. Directly convince yourself that this was the best for the child.

What happens next?

For those who have encountered a cesarean section for the first time, it seems that everything—happy motherhood—is in question. How will I give birth next time? Is it really always a caesarean section now? And if the seam comes apart... There are many fears and unanswered questions. The thought that tormented me most was that I would not be able to have several children, two at most. And I cried and cried...

Now, having three boys, I calmly remember this time and think, would you support me? knowledgeable person– these two years after the first cesarean would have passed easier.

Fear of the next cesarean

Yes, he is. It's like skydiving. The first time you don’t have time to understand what’s what. But by the second time you already know everything. And you begin to be afraid in advance. But firstly, it is not a fact that next birth There will also be a cesarean section. It is quite possible.

Secondly, this is not so soon. Convince yourself to solve difficulties as they arise. Don't waste your energy now. After all, you really need it for other purposes - for recovery, for caring for the baby.

Good friends

Is it difficult after a cesarean section? Yes, psychologically – very much so. And therefore it is good that in many maternity hospitals, women with cesarean sections are placed in the same ward with the same women in labor. I don't think I could stand it the first time happy person near).

And for a long time I listened with heavy feeling as someone easily gave birth. I advise you to talk about childbirth and pregnancy with those who have also experienced a caesarean section. Tell us about yours, don’t keep it to yourself.

If there is no such person nearby,... This community was created to provide support. Here, any feelings of a woman who has undergone a CS will be treated with understanding. If there is no communication, read the stories and you will see that your birth is not the most difficult.

Does your husband understand?

The hardest thing for me was thinking that my husband was disappointed with my birth, that he was not as happy as he could have been with a natural birth. In fact, I inspired this in myself, and my husband’s reaction to the birth was explained by fatigue from experiences (days of childbirth... he even started smoking).

Explain your feelings to your husband, show how and with what words he can support you.

Extra information

Consciously avoid articles, films like “consequences of caesarean section”, “Caesarean babies are more difficult to adapt”, etc., which say that natural childbirth is much better than caesarean section. This will further injure you. And believe me, such knowledge is unnecessary for us. They are needed only for those who voluntarily desire a cesarean section. That's all.

Working on our head

Girls, there are great psychological exercises that help. For example, the fight against negative attitudes.

I did this. On a piece of paper I write down all the statements that hurt me. For example:

• I'm a bad mother, I couldn't give birth myself
• the child is a Caesarean, he will not be able to cope with difficulties, because he has not passed through the birth canal
• I won't have real maternal feelings
• I will never be able to experience the joy of birth.

Sound familiar? So here it is. We write down an antidote to each statement:

I am the best mother for my child

Caesar is no different from other children,

Maternal feelings are not physiology, but a conscious choice.

I am happy to have a healthy child.

We simply refuse some bad statements. We tear off positive statements on paper from negative ones. And we read every day. And we simply burn the bad ones, driving them out in this way. It helps me.

If you have ways to combat this condition, let's share your experience!

If self-help doesn't work, don't hesitate to consult a psychologist. It's not so expensive and not so scary)))

Pregnancy is one of the most wonderful periods in the life of every woman. A woman blossoms, feeling how she grows and develops new life. However, it also happens that during these happy nine months, a woman faces more than one difficulty. And even before the moment of the first contractions, a decision is made about surgical delivery - caesarean section. How not to get confused at such a moment and get the most positive emotions from the birth of a baby in this way?

Positive attitude of the expectant mother

We will not consider situations where the mother herself decides that her baby will be born by caesarean section, supposedly making it easier for yourself during childbirth. This is a huge misconception. Having gone through an operative birth, any woman can say with confidence that this is not at all easy way the birth of a baby and requires a huge expenditure of moral and physical strength. But in a situation where a caesarean section is prescribed based on the health of the mother or baby, and natural childbirth can be dangerous, you can and should set yourself up for positive thinking.

Absolute indications for caesarean section

There are not many absolute indications for cesarean section. If the mother is diagnosed with craniopelvic disproportion or clinically narrow pelvis. This means that the baby's head is large and the pelvic bones are narrow. Most often, such a diagnosis is made already during childbirth, when contractions are actively occurring, but there is no progress. In this case, doctors resort to caesarean section. Poor placement of the baby in the uterus may lead to surgery. For example, transverse position of the fetus, leg presentation, facial and frontal presentation. Also to emergency situations include: umbilical cord prolapse, placenta previa, placental abruption. These are situations that require an emergency caesarean section.

However, more and more often there are situations when the operation is scheduled. More often this occurs due to the mother's illness. Diabetes, kidney disease, bronchial asthma, symphysitis, hypertension, cardiac and other serious illness. In such cases, in order to reduce the risks for mother and baby to a minimum, a decision is made on a planned caesarean section. A planned caesarean section has a number of clear advantages over an emergency one. Firstly, the mother has time to prepare mentally for this event and get used to the idea of ​​the need for surgical delivery. Doctors will have the opportunity to analyze all the risks associated with a particular medical case, collect everything necessary tests and conduct examinations. In this case, the risks are minimized.

Relative indications for cesarean section include weakness labor activity, not amenable medicinal correction. If the mother is over 30 years old and is about to give birth for the first time, the doctor may recommend surgical delivery, of course, if there are any accompanying pathologies. Chronic placental insufficiency, fetal hypoxia, multiple pregnancy, post-term pregnancy, long-term infertility - relative readings to a cesarean section. Also when poor condition scar on the uterus from a previous operation, the doctor prefers surgical delivery in order to minimize risks.

Children after caesarean section

Many expectant mothers are afraid of a caesarean section due to harm to the baby. There is a misconception that babies born through surgery are different worse health, inability in the future to overcome obstacles from children born naturally.

IN modern world we can say with confidence that this is a myth. IN recent years All unfavorable factors factors affecting the child as a result of a cesarean section are taken into account and neutralized during the birth process. Increasingly, the operation is performed under epidural anesthesia, which solves the problem of anesthesia products entering the baby’s bloodstream. Fluid is squeezed out of the baby's lungs special device, and the operation itself is increasingly performed with the onset of natural labor. When performing an operation under local anesthesia, the baby is immediately applied to the mother’s breast, which allows the mother to fully feel her participation in the process of giving birth to the child and avoid severe postpartum depression.

I am 38 weeks into a desired and pleasant pregnancy in all respects. I’m sitting alone in an empty apartment and staring at the bag I’ve packed for the maternity hospital. There is only one thought in my head: I wish it would all end soon. Caesarean cannot be avoided, but I knew about this from the very beginning. The problems with the retina are so serious that the doctors gave me a choice: cesarean or forceps in the second stage of labor. I imagined how my baby’s tender body was being pulled by some kind of glands... No, it would be better if they cut me open.

And here is the husband. Something suspiciously pale. Now he will take me to the maternity hospital, and the three of us will return. Everything will be fine. I believe it. We are waiting for you, son!

Half an hour's drive and we are at the maternity hospital. The emergency room, mandatory procedures, around pregnant women with contractions... I begin to feel slightly jittery. I look at the neighbor in the queue: she looks about 45 years old, from some remote village, without a doctor, third caesarean section. The jitters end. I am young, healthy (almost), first pregnancy, first birth, all documents are available. Everything will be fine. I want to calm down my neighbor, but she is calm as a tank. And he also asks if she should be sterilized. Of course, do it immediately! Third caesarean - at this age - it's crazy! Where are doctors looking?

Finally, we, planned cesareans, are registered in the pregnancy pathology department. There are potbellied people with sad eyes all around: some are also undergoing cesarean section, some are nursing, some have an aging placenta. And for some reason there are a lot of ghost women: pale, bent over, with catheters on their wrists. These are recently cut. They are not allowed to visit the antenatal department, but they still visit their friends. The jitters begin again. Soon I will become just like them. I will become anemic from blood loss during the operation, my stitches will ache terribly and my heart will ache for the baby, who will not be given to me right away. However, I’ll think about it tomorrow, I tell myself, like Scarlett O’Hara from Gone with the Wind. Everything will be fine.

The baby behaves calmly, hardly pushes, and does not intend to go out. He feels good and comfortable in the womb. What if, when the doctors begin the operation, he will sleep soundly? They'll wake him up, they'll drag him out into the bright light with someone else's arms, and I won't even be able to hold him close to me. What kind of stress awaits him, and here I am with my worries. We need to calm down immediately. They're calling to donate blood. I don’t have any veins anymore, although I didn’t complain about them before pregnancy. Thank God, I passed. Everything is fine. The doctor scheduled surgery for the day after tomorrow. I'm looking forward to this day. Big belly does not allow you to sleep normally on a sagging bed. And then the comrade in your tummy won’t let you get enough sleep. But this will be a completely different song, won’t it?

So, I don't eat, I don't drink, I don't sleep. Tomorrow I will see my baby...

Bright operating room light, cold table. The body begins to tremble treacherously. It is impossible not to be afraid. Nothing depends on me anymore. Athletic abs, elastic muscles, good blood clotting - all this does not matter now. This is an operation where everything depends on the skill of the doctors. The anesthesiologist injects me spinal cord medicine, and bottom part the body ceases to feel anything. I hear everything, but I see nothing. Firstly, without glasses I can’t see much at all, and secondly, there’s a screen in front of my eyes. After a while I hear some grunting. “Mommy, look, you have a boy,” is this for me? Am I the mother now? The doctor brings the child to me. Without glasses I can only see the outline of the creature, but I know that my son is the most beautiful in the world. But why is it gray? "What is he wearing?" - I ask the doctors. It turns out that this is a birth lubricant. He screamed when they took him away for processing, and my heart was relieved. The cry is loud and dissatisfied. “I just hatched, but I already have a character,” I thought and passed out. Everything will be fine.

My happiness, weighing 3660 kg and 52 cm tall, is snoring in a funny maternity hospital cradle on wheels. We've been together for three days now, and during these days I've only slept for about six hours. I change clothes, feed, rock. I change clothes, feed, rock. The stitch hurts so much that you can’t laugh or cough. However, I'm not laughing. in full. Tears flow from the eyes like water from an open tap. The breast is sucked until it bleeds, there is little milk. But I don’t supplement with formula, I hold on. The child screams day and night - either from hunger or from stress. I swaddle him - he gets swaddled, I rock him - he doesn't get rocked. A classic picture: a screaming firstborn and an incompetent mother. I envy my neighbor with three Caesareans (she was sterilized after all). Swaddles the baby in an instant, washes the baby’s bottom in a second, rocks him to sleep expertly. There are no cracks on the chest. It’s okay, I console myself, experience is a gain. Everything will be fine.

By the end of my stay in the maternity hospital, I resemble a hellraiser. Black circles under the eyes pale face, dirty, disheveled hair (no time to wash and comb). And here, finally, is the extract. I waited. And the seam seems to hardly hurt anymore, and the baby is swaddled well. Life is getting better. Before leaving, I decided to feed my son some formula, maybe he’ll fall asleep. Lo and behold, I fell asleep - how! They dressed him for discharge, photographed him, filmed him, passed him from hand to hand by enthusiastic relatives - he didn’t even bat an eyelid. Apparently, he really was screaming from hunger in the maternity hospital. Well, it’s okay, son, we’ll sort out this lactation, you’ll have enough food to eat. Until then, sleep, baby. There are so many loving faces around, and even tears of joy and happiness. We have been waiting for you, we love you very, very much and will always love you. Everything will be fine.

Discussion

In the maternity hospital after the cesarean section, I seriously thought: never again! I was SO depressed that I saw the world only in black. And my baby was the only bright spot. I think this is not from a cesarean section; this also happens after a natural birth. I didn’t want to scare anyone with my story, I simply described how it all happened. As for Tatyana, the worst thing was waiting for anesthesia on the operating table. I was shaking all over with excitement and fear. But I recovered from anesthesia (spinal anesthesia) surprisingly easily, but I really wanted to drink. Then problems of a completely different kind began: with the breasts, with milk. But this is individual for everyone. My neighbor (she had an emergency caesarean section a little earlier) simply filled herself with milk and expressed it in glasses for the other babies. So don't worry about this topic. And now everything is so good with my son (he is active, affectionate, eats well, begins to talk - we are 1.9) that I am sure: in a few years I will decide on a second one! Why only after a few years? For only one reason: after a caesarean section, you can’t lift anything heavier than a newborn, and my firstborn loves to prance on his arms, and after all, he weighs 13 kg!